OT- DH'S high school friend (Update)
This passed Saturday DH planned me a surprise birthday dinner at a local restaurant. It was a small intimate gathering. If you guessed DH's friend was among the guests, you are correct.
She was very quiet and didn't say much during dinner. It was only six of us. The rest of us were talking, laughing, joking and chair dancing. She just kind of sat there.
The only thing she did that annoyed me was I was showing DH a picture on my phone of two family members. I put my phone away, she said, "I'd like to see." I told her, "too late I already put my phone away."
I think it kind of rubbed her the wrong way but who cares. I will still not be pursuing that relationship any further.
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Yeah, she definitely sounds
Yeah, she definitely sounds like she just wants to be part of DH's family...how weird.
Minus me. I seem to attract
Minus me. I seem to attract weird people.
How nice she was part of your
How nice she was part of your birthday celebration. You said it was a small intimate gathering.I guess your DH must think the two of you are such great friends? Do you find it odd he asked her? Is he aware how you feel about her? Funny that she asked to see a photo you were showing your DH, its not like you were showing this to everyone else. This seems small, but its not. She is intruding. Also everyone seemed upbeat and happy except her. Hmmmm
Happy Birthday
Thank you. According to DH he
Thank you. According to DH he planned the surprise dinner a few months in advance. I guess he didn't want to rescind the invitation after the previous Saturday's fiasco . She was about 45 minutes to an hour late.
I did appreciate the fact that DH didn't wait for her. We ordered drinks and appetizers. By the time she came we were putting in our dinner orders.
Have you asked your husband
Have you asked your husband why exactly this woman is present ?
Dani - this all could be true
Dani - this all could be true lol, DH planned the party before you told him you are ending the friendship you just don't get along with this woman...
I'm still keeping my story this cow is after your husband, and she was ticked off the whole evening cause he did something nice for you on your birthday, she only showed her face, to save the day, she never thought for one moment that you and DH can have fun without her..
I would kill her with photo's of me and DH, hugging, holding hands, kissing in romantic spots.... she will probably block you after the 5th photo lol..
How I plan to decorate when
How I plan to decorate when we finally have a house... lol. DH is too polite to tell her to stay away, so I'll just make her as uncomfortable as humanly possible until she learns to stay away. Or depending on how the future goes... I petition to adopt and the Skids don't have to deal with her crap anymore... Cuz as of right now she is the most unhealthy thing for them and is emotionally destroying them. It disgusts me. I working to get them into counseling because of all the damage to see if that'll help their situation. Because I had a SUPER awful relationship with my mom growing up, but I love having her as an adult... so I do want the Skids to have the option if possible. Cuz she might be a terrible mother, but she is mom.
Acra I like that idea. She
Acra I like that idea. She could have not shown her face and it would have been perfectly fine with me.
I found it funny that she didn't ask DH a zillion questions like she did me.
What did I miss? this says
What did I miss? this says update, but I don't see a post about this "friend" and your party? Who the heck is this person??
Here you go Daizy: DH's high
Here you go Daizy:
DH's high school friend approached me about hanging out a few years ago. She is single and has no children.
We have hung out a total of three times in the last year. We hung out this Saturday and I am seriously considering not hanging out with her one on one again. In a group setting, it could happen.
My first reason is she asks too many questions about SS12 and SS15. Like their age differences. Do they ever ask to spend the night other than the designated weekend? Are they popular at school? Since disengaging, I really don't want to discuss DH'S sons when I am supposed to be out having girl time.
Second reason she got all up in arms on Saturday about nothing. SS12 and DH arrived home right before we were getting in the car to leave. SS12 said hello and went inside. Me, her and DH had a five minute conversation and we left. While we were driving to get something to eat, she said as close as her and DH were in high school, she doesn't have a relationship with his kids. She said they just said hello and went inside. I told her not sure what they she was referring to, because SS15 was at home and only SS15 was with DH. I also told her welcome to the club.
My third reason......We did go to SS12's football game. I told DH we would meet him there. Now DH's friend claims to have never liked DH'S ex-wife. Well I sure couldn't tell Saturday night. After the game, she made it her business to say hello, have a conversation and give her a hug. Now please understand, her loyalty would be with DH not me. I think DH got annoyed. When she made her way back to me and DH she could only talk about BM and DH nor I wanted to hear it, and I told her just that.
My last and final reason she seems to try to insert herself into me and DH'S life. She will try and invite or include herself in our plans.
I don't think she likes DH, only because she has been smitten with one of his friends since forever. I think it's best that I not embark on a friendship with her. Besides I can't risk venting and being honest and have it get back to DH.
My antenna is picking up on something, but not sure what it is. Opinions? Thoughts