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OT- DH's High School Friend strikes again!!!!

DaniAM73's picture

Whoever commented on the previous blogs about DH's friend, and her wanting to be part of his life......YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD.

I have been on a FB break, but decided to update my profile picture. I posted a pic of me and DH. I love the picture because DH is genuinely smiling. I am kissing him on the cheek.

DH commented on the picture, "VERY NICE PICTURE". He put an emoji with two hearts as eyes. My response was "I love this picture because your smile is genuine."

Now the picture was taken at my birthday dinner a few months ago. Sadly, DH's friend was part of the celebration.

This woman (DH's friend) comments, "yes he is smiling because he was surrounded by good people, food and drinks."

I started to respond and tell her, no it's because I'm kissing him on the cheek, but didn't want to get into a FB banter. The comments that followed were sufficient enough. Friends commented on how great we looked together, beautiful couple...etc.

DH was livid. I haven't told him that she might like him like that, because he will tell me she likes our other friend.

Her and I are officially done.

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Dovina's picture

Exactly blond. The picture was clearly one of the couple where Dani is kissing her DH on the cheek. The picture represents the two of them. The comment of the friend, that's not really a friend, would have been appropriate if it was a group shot.
Smart to ditch her, and I strongly suggest your DH does the same.
Her comment was made to minimize you as a couple being happy. Quite pathetic.

DaniAM73's picture

I took it just as that. As to see, "oh DH wouldn't be happy with you kissing him on the cheek, it's because we were there."

Disneyfan's picture

She responses because they are all friends. :?

If you don't want her comment or your pictures and/or think she has her eyes on your husband, then why are you friends with her???

DaniAM73's picture

A little backstory....

One, she is DH's friend not mine. A few years ago she approached me about hanging out. As I stated several times I thought she was being genuine. Recent events have proved her friendship and motives a little on the suspect side.

Since the taking of the photo I have not spoken to her. Again as I stated, I was taking a FB break and changed my profile pic. Never really occurred to me that she would comment.

I simply was just giving props to those who were insightful enough to call what they were seeing. I now know how to proceed with her.

DaniAM73's picture

Both. I really should not have considered a friendship with her. She approached me a few years ago about hanging out and I thought ok cool.

Yeah not so cool.

momjeans's picture

I’m with MurphysLaw here.

Who in their right mind would make such a comment, and publicly at that!?

Is your DH livid because she cannot contain her feelings, or even worse has a not-so-secret now, side thing with this woman? I would wonder, because that comment is not normal.

This queen B would be going into the airlock in real life and on social media, like yesterday. She just showed you who she is - trouble.

DaniAM73's picture

DH is NOT sleeping with her. Now one thing I will not tolerate is a cheater. Straight up no chaser.

The comment should not have been made. She is diminishing my relationship with DH.

Airlock DONE.

momjeans's picture

I’m in total agreement with you. That’s exactly what that comment was. An opportunity to minimize you, your happy moment caught in a photo, and your and DH’s happiness.

That comment would make her out to look mental, even to an outsider unaware of the backstory.

ntm's picture

Delete her comment, block her, and move on. And don’t bet the ranch on him not having a thing for her.

momjeans's picture

If you’re 110% he doesn’t have a thing for her, or that he’s involved with her - whether that be physically or just emotionally, her actions are toxic and completely uncalled for.

Your DH should have publicly called her on her crap right then and there, not you (though, I see you did not, good for you), then be done with her. Both of you.

I truly hope, for your sake, that your DH is onboard with axing her completely out of his life.

notasm3's picture

Trust your gut. No one in their right mind should tolerate a person who has a “thing” for their partner. It has nothing to do with how trustworthy the partner is. It’s just common sense. Even if you are 100% sure that your partner has no interest in the interloper it”s kind of like having a fly buzz around your food.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

I second this... Hence why DH makes sure MINIMAL contact with BM... And if she calls with a sob story he now shuts her down... I cut a few of my guy friends he claimed were flirtatious too (I didn't see it, but he didn't see BM either... And his comfort is important in my opinion)

No matter how faithful or how much you trust someone. Dealing with that crap shouldn't be expected of either party.