When I got divorced the first time, I swore I would never date a woman with children again. However, I fell in love with a beautiful woman who is wise, intelligent.... And yes a mother. She has two children who are 15 and 10, it just seems like they both need more help than Jesus!! They can't seem to do the basic things without the help of their mother. To make matters worse, their BF is still involved in their lives... Even though he owes literally thousands of dollars in back child support.
My DW, although I love her passionately, is a constant source of criticism of my every action. I am by no means perfect and and I've never claim to be, but whenyou have to hear her criticize you over every word you say, every thought you have, even the way you sleep in your bed at night, that's a problem.
Unfortunately these kids feed into that attitude, especially my SS. He is just flat out bad!! He will use my computer, use my cellphone without permission, eat all the food and use everything I buy for him and our home, yet he will tell people in public I am not his father...and with indignation too.
Her daughter seems to think she is grown, as does the boy When I ask her to do the easiest things to help, she gives me a constant debate about it. I don't think they see me as a father figure. They just see me as a man their mother married, and they just have to tolerate. There have been times when I have wanted to slap the taste out of the boy's mouth, but I don't wanna end up in cuffs. And their mother..well..she unknowingly feeds this attitude through her constant criticism.
I love these people...but I feel more alone than ever.