so I'm reading stepmonster while my DH is golfing and i have the house to myself. DH honored my request to make his kids wait until sunday to come since they were staying longer than weekend. I didnt see a point in them being here while we had a friend from out of town here visiting and they planned on golfing all day today. i said it would be unfair to have the kids here and we wouldn't be. he agreed and said to stay with bm til sunday then come til wednesday.
As i'm reading the book i've finally had my AH HA moment on pg 122-123 where it says a dad said that he barely sees his daughter so he didnt want to spend the whole time arguing and wanted it to be fun. THIS IS WHAT DH DOES AND IT DRIVES ME NUTS!!!! what i dont understand is how they don't want to fight with their kid that is there maybe 3 days out of the week, but have no problem with fighting with a spouse who is there all the time about the 3 days!!!!
i have disengaged from the skids. the dishes they dirtied still sit on the right side of the sink. everything DH and i have dirtied since they left has been washed and put away. DH has to notice it as i have ours drying on the counter while i do other things and then put them away. he never asks if i have forgotten something. i came home friday to find he did their laundry - another plus that i didnt thank him for since he said he would do it. i figure i'm not going to show i'm pleased for him keeping up his end of things. it might just start a snotty fight going something like I SAID I'D DO IT AND I AM, easier to just not say anything. when teh skids get here tomorrow i'm curious how many more dishes will pile up. i have taken a setting of my own and put it in another cupboard so i can still use if need to in time of the dish washing strike.
petty...i think not because it didnt have to get this far if he would have just spoken to his children about the issues i was having while they were here instead of doing nothing.