Sometimes I need to come first
We have my boyfriend’s 9 year old daughter staying with us for three weeks. She and I have a very good relationship overall but sometimes it drives me crazy how much he lets her dictate how everything goes. I am dealing with a very stressful situation with my job and asked him if I could have a few minutes to talk to him in private about it. About 10 minutes into our discussion she threw a fit which instantly ended the conversation. This is after she had interrupted already on two separate occasions wanting him to finish up and go back in the living room. While I understand that his kids will always come first, there are times when I feel like I need to be prioritized and tonight was one of them. I am really struggling with the work situation and the fact that he didn’t see it fit to draw that boundary with her has left me feeling very resentful. Am I overreacting? As another note, he gets home several hours earlier than I do from work because I am working two jobs. I reference this because they definitely get time alone but when she is here, he and I don’t. In fact, she will not sleep upstairs by herself because she is afraid so he has to sleep in the other room up there which leaves me sleeping downstairs in our bed alone so we can’t even talk before going to sleep.