Just STOP trying to please them. They will never be happy no matter what you do, so do less. Take it from someone who tried for almost 20 years and I am SLOW, I gave up 1 year ago. Wish I had smartened up within the first couple of years and focused on pleasing myself and DH instead of the SD's who are greedy selfish meanies.

Your husband needs to teach his kids some manners.

I agree to doing your own thing, in or out of the house, but you should be given basic respect in your own home.

I've been married for six years, and my DH's kids do the very same thing. Know what? I don't even care anymore. One of the previous posters is correct -- there is NOTHING that is going to change the way they are. And if they're anything like my SK's, the harder you try, the more they delight in alienating you.

And certainly do NOT have your DH talk to them. Again, that validates the fact that they've gotten under your skin and trust me, it still won't change a thing. With my SK's, they're not being openly hostile or aggressive, they just refuse to acknowledge my existence. What is DH supposed to say, "I demand you acknowledge B22's existence" ?? That sounds ridiculous.

Do your own thing. Ignore them right back. I guess the politically correct term for this is "disengaging". You will not get anywhere with them because you continue to try.

My DH gets it now and understands that no matter what I did, his kids continued their campaign against me. I told him I quit. Not my kids, neither I nor my money were put on this earth to meet their emotional needs. However, I only hope that some day when they're older, they'll realize I'm not really as bad as they've made me out to be all these years... (fat chance).