THE dinner meeting
I know you are all dying to know. LOL!
So a restaurant is agreed upon and DH and I have discussed an exit plan and how to be on same page well beforehand. He seems nervous, I am surprisingly not (I look fantastic, and don't GAF). YSD13 is also coming, oddly.
We arrive first. YSD comes in waves, says hi as normal. After some delay BM comes in with OSD15 at her heels, arms crossed, almost hiding behind BM. OSD doesn't greet either of us, and physically turned from DH when he approached. She sits as far away from him as possible.
BM starts making small talk, nothing big, we order dinner, small talk. It is unremarkable really. YSD is her normal self, sitting next to me. Not once do I address OSD directly. I talk only when needed. OSD remains sullen, making teenager comments now and then. I do catch her telling YSD that her high school is better because of "x" ( I have been concerned OSD is influencing YSD for some time and now I'm certain... I did tell DH and he is mad at OSD and says he's to talk with BM about it).
OSD looks bad. She's not the cute teen that left. Her hair is dull and dry, pale splotchy face, puffy. I think her poor diet and lack of exercise is showing.
Anyway, we finished eating and OSD tells BM to get the check. BM leaves. OSD then assertively says, "I have something important to tell you about myself. I am bisexual." This gets a shrug from DH and I.
I realized THIS is why we are there. It's her '''coming out" announcement!!!! Nothing to do with reconciliation but all to do about OSD!
She then almost flatly turns down DH when he says he would like her to come to our home for a weekend next month. She then practically runs to BMs car, no goodbye at all.
DH is ok but I can tell he is pissed. He said if she doesn't come for a weekend then there's no way she's coming on the trip because how can he know she will be ok with him for ten days. Exactly!
I think it's more likely she will not be going with us.
And I could give a toss about her sexuality because a jerk is a jerk.