I need to get to a lawyer..
DH and I have been discussing wills. As we are trying to have children, I want to leave my estate to my children, but HE wants me to split it equally between our kids and his two kids. I don’t think this is fair because then the older two will be 'double dipping' as they will also inherit from their Mother, whereas my/our children will only inherit from ME.
DH pretty much had nothing when we married. He was seriously ill after he split from BM and spent his share of the proceeds of the divorce on medical bills and living expenses as he could not work. All of our assets were mine from before we married.
Anyway, because we are at loggerheads over the wills, I doubt very much he will make a will. This means that in the event of his death, he will die intestate, in which case the kids can apply for a set percentage of his estate. What I’m worried about, is that if he dies before I do, BM will come after my assets through the kids, claiming that it is part of his estate.
So I need to go and get some legal advice about protecting my assets from his EX. Maybe I need to put everything into a trust fund that she can never touch or something. My SS12 is already all about the $$. It’s pretty sad really. He has no love of me, and I could very well expect that as an adult he will go for all he can get with his Mother pushing him along. That’s what is happening now, so I don’t think I’m paranoid to think that this will happen in the future.
(BTW This is the woman who told my DH that he was not 'supposed' to go on a honeymoon, because he should have given the money we spent on the trip to her! Such a sense of entitlement…)