Is it normal to not feel bonded?
I don't feel bonded to my SD10 and have been in her life for 3 years. She still grosses me out. She runs to her BM and reports everything we do. She is argumentative and disrespectful. My DH claims she thinks the world of me. .. but I don't see it. I definitely don't feel it from my side. I don't look forward to our shared parenting time and actually get more excited for her to leave. If I had things my way, I'd give up custody to her BM.... and let BM continue to screw up her own daughter's life.
I'm concerned about not being bonded because it's getting harder to fake. But i can't help how i feel. Nothing this girl does brings joy to my heart....i feel bad for saying that. My DH finds the stupidest things she does endearing and cute. I find them annoying.
Read a book recommended by a fellow Venter on this site. 123 Magic. Going to try that technique to keep her in line. At least it will help me stay calm and not run through so much Xanax.