PAS wins again
The last few days at our house have been overwhelming. My SD12 just came back from visiting BM on Friday. She was at BM's house for two weeks. Before she went, she was doing well. Her grades were better than ever and she seemed happy.
Since she has been back, our lives have been a living hell. SD12 hasnt said more than five words to any of us. She is refusing to eat and cries all the time. Its so bad that she is keeping the entire house awake all night because she cries as loudly as possible. Its so bad that I can actually hear her with both our doors closed and the TV on. Needless to say, things are extremely tense. I am 36 weeks pregnant and already dealing with insomnia.
Things came to a head last night. She was crying at midnight. DH tried calming her down but nothing was working. After a while it was quiet, but then I started hearing her phone's text alert going off. DH went in there and caught her texting BM. She isn't supposed to have her phone in her room but she snuck in our room and took it. Apparently, she's been doing this alot lately, sending BM messages about our house and how "mistreated" she is.
DH confronted her about it and she told him that she hated it here and wants to live with BM. Apparently, we aren't her real family. She said that she isn't happy and hates DH for tsking her away from her mom.
This is all new to us. My DH is devastated. I am angry and hurt. Where do we go from here? She has been living here full-time for five years. Everytime, she goes back to BM's house, we have to start over. This goes on and rips our household apart. I am just at a loss.