First of all...I truly appreciate all my friends who have followed my not so stepparent related story, and kept me in your thoughts and prayers. From the bottom of my heart...thank you.
So ultimately, it got continued until March 3rd (next week). Not because either of us requested it, but simply because we ran out of time.
BUT, thankfully, I testified as did my BS12's therapist. So I don't have to worry about having to testify anymore which seemed to be my biggest anxiety. The devil still wore a ponytail and a cheap suit made of silk and his lawyer, the willing accomplice in this farce, didn't bother to brush his hair.
I take back any adverse word I ever spoke of my son's therapist. Her testimony was flawless and she turned out to be the best adversary I could have ever hoped for. His lawyer adamantly objected to her testimony based on the fact that he had never gotten to speak to her. My lawyer had endorsed her properly and filed all the necessary paperwork all in a timely manner so she was allowed to testify. She, in a nutshell, basically painted a beautiful picture of a young boy who is open to a relationship with his biological father but that this father should respect the fact that my son's therapeutic diagnosis is one of abandonment and realize that he fears the unknown. She stated that I was a wonderful mother who is only looking out for the best interest of a son who I love very much and whose mother/son bond is a very strong one. She stated that all contact between biodad and son should be supervised and should be supervised by the person he feels safest with...his mother.
During cross examination, biodad's lawyer objected again asking that therapist's testimony be stricken being that he was never given her "notes". The judge stated that he understood that he didn't want the therapist to testify, but that he had no legal basis to his objection...he was given proper notice and he had almost three months to contact the therapist, so please refrain from objecting to a subject that he's already ruled on. His lawyer then tried to disparage me asking the therapist if she was aware of the times I had withheld visitation. She stated that she was aware and she supported my decision to do so. His lawyer didn't have much to say after that.
So then I took the stand.
Upon the advice of my lawyer, my testimony was not emotional but instead fact based all for the benefit of the judge who he believed to be "no nonsense". Even when his lawyer challenged me, I responded with intelligence and facts. When biodad didn't like something I said, he reacted by throwing his arms in the air or slamming his hands on the table. It was quite the debacle. His lawyer kept harping me with the same line of questioning about my "withholding of visitation" and when my attorney objected, the judge explained to his lawyer that this is not a fault trial and that it's obvious that irregardless, biodad had only seen the child a handful of times..."so lets move on". There was nothing else to ask of me.
Needless to say, DH and my attorney said that I did "great".
So now, what's said is said and we'll let the chips fall where they may land. I have a renewed hope. The devil hired I believe the worst attorney ever.
I guess you "pay for what you get".
That's the Dave Matthews song I listened to on the way to the courthouse. Gotta love Dave.