Thoughts about the couch/Sort of step related
Last night, sweet heart neice came over to hang out. Id heard that she was staying here and there but nothing specific and no detail.
This is the one that "disappeared" for a few years. Met a guy, and he was into drugs and shady stuff, and spent all her money. She was held in a hotel room and threatened at one point, she said. She managed to get away, went to rehab for a while, and now is trying to rebuild her life. Shes no longer in contact with the shady guy, and is helping her cousin with his business.
Shes very sweet and polite Shes 5'1" and over 300 kbs, has heart disease and all kinds of other health issues. Shes been staying with Husbands sister, then her own sister. And chose to leave because they all wanted to put a tracker on her and know where she was at all times of the day and night. They wanted her to do what they thought she should do. Get her disability money, get a job, do this and that for health...
Hah. Well, she would rather sleep in her car than give them that level of control. Maybe theres more, who knows.
She slept on our couch last night, after very respectfuly asking me as "lady of the house". It was fine with me, Ive always considered her family. Im not trying to fix her. She has to fix herself. As long as shes not hurting me, or doing anything really bad, I dont mind if she needs a safe, clean place to sleep. Some food.
It made me think. We steppers spend years upon years providing for, supporting, paying for, housing children that are not ours, that we didnt make and that on a good day do not consider us and on a bad day openly have hatred of us. That certainly do nothing to help us out or make our lives better/easier. And here is sweetheart niece who just needs a little space, a little food, and offers to help out if I need it! I am SO ahead of the game!!! If Powersulk tomorrow said "Im just going to say with BM Toxic Troll" Id be so ready to move sweetheart niece in! All she would have to do is keep her room decent, clean up after herself, take care of pets when we are gone, and maybe help out with something here and there like a run to grocery store (reimbursed). Maybe a ride somewhere. Because Im so used to minor children that just take take take and never give unless there is something in it for them. Unless dollars are involved.
Is that weird? That I would take in a non-dna related adult and have almost no expectations? lol. Shes a great baker. She may get to help me with my holiday cookie baskets. Ill approach her tonight as she will be with us again.