May the Fourth be with you (the Pouty chronicles)
So this is one of those almost-comical too common stories. Disney Dadee giving in to pouty kiddo, and telling SM that "they are the adult, but they are acting like a child, they are the problem" kind of story.
The Fourth, we are not supposed to have Munchkin SD13, its Bm's time/holiday. Munchkin, however has other plans. We wanted to sort of keep things mellow, do our own thing, but she is insisting her mother never does anything can she please come with us...
Which is fine.
Except, its becoming not so fine. I wanted to go to a local parade, get there early, see my tribe, listen to music. DH wants to go fishing in the morning. Then we both tool around during the day (shopping?) and we meet up later for fireworks. Im good with that
Except, now SIL Auntie #1 calls Munchkin SD13 and asks her if she is going to large DH family gathering at Auntie #2's house. No calls or texts to DH at this point, and of course Im excluded from this communication. Munchkin REALLY wants to go, see her family (totally understandable, except we DO NOT want to go to this, and we DO NOT want to have Toxic Troll take her without us ).
So, here is where she starts asking me to "practice curling" her very short hair, and planning to go to family gathering. I say "well, we arent really planning on going, we are keeping it open, and just going with flow. If you are ok with that, then great, come with us. Negotiate with your mother."
Pouty mac pouterson appears suddenly. Munchkin is not happy. And we can see that, and I call her out on it telling her that if she is not going to be ok with it, sorry, but DH is going fishing, I am going to morning parade, and after that it is open.
Background: Pouty Mac Pouterson has been appearing more and more lately when we go out and she doesnt get to do what she wants or get the "thing" that she wants (like $50 pendant!!! FFS. Or where we go out to eat, or can she bring a friend to outing, hears no...).
So she pouts, I mention it, she tries to say "well thats my straight face", and I say "no, its "THAT face" then she tries another tactic (shes too smart!) and tells me "would you rather me have a fake smile?" and I respond with "no - not at all - be real - we are just wanting to keep it open and go with the flow!"
Munchkin huffs off - as much as she can huff, its really not her style plus she REALLY doesnt want to stay at BM's apartment and ANYTHING is more fun than that, so she can see that its a losing proposition.
She cleans her room, and starts chatting with me happily, about this and that a few moments later. Maybe I won this one, but I think she just doubled down hoping to get ANYTHING...lol. Ive got to up my game. I do love that kid!
DH, this morning was telling me that "you, Clove pout like she does, you compete with a CHILD". Im like "um no, you elevate child above your wife." Such a friendly oonversation. Looks like a "see the light moment" is in order. Or not. Just going with the fllow, like the force...