So BM has agreed to a 50/50 split (week on week off started last friday), now it needs to go through the courts so it's all on paper. I am holding my breath, waiting to see if BM is actually going to follow through with this whole thing. She has told BF that she will get a statement notarized saying she is agreeing to this, and that she will pay for half of the filing costs. But I'm not going to get my hopes up.

Also, where I live they generally won't change the custody (BM has sole physical, and it's joint legal) unless there is a change in circumstances or unless it has been one year since the last order was granted. Their divorce decree, along with visitation, was just signed this last march. So I am worried that the judge is not going to grant a change to 50/50 because the current order was just signed, and also because BM would not consent to a 50/50 split throughout their entire 3 year divorce process. So I am thinking he is going to ask why now? Also, a big stickler to the courts is, can the parents get along if physical custody is split down the middle? Well, they can't stand each other, but they have been able to work through some issues regarding SS, like hitting, not listening or even just attending doctors appts. together, etc. But, I feel that the judge is going to look at the fact that she refused to let BF have 50/50 for all those years, then now after only 2 months, she is changing her mind, and decided that they really can't co-parent efficiently and deny the request. On the other hand, I am also hoping that he sees that she is agreeing to, and in fact it was even her idea, that they have joint physical custody of SS, and that the fact that she is now working some nights and weekends will serve as enough of a change in circumstances to warrant a custody change. Fingers Crossed.