As many of you know, SS11.5 has always been over scheduled in our opinion. BM has him in sports year-round with maybe a week gap in between - soccer in the spring, football in summer and fall, and basketball in the winter. These sports practice 3-5 days per week, with games every weekend. This doesn't include extra off season training or camps. SS was also taking foreign language private lessons up until recently.
Today, BM emailed DH to let him know that she signed SS up for soccer again in the spring and that SS is currently doing basketball, but he also wants to try wrestling, so BM signed him up for that for winter as well. She isn't going to pay for tournaments this year, only let him practice until she knows he likes it. But she confirmed he would be doing two sports for the entire winter season. DH just rolled his eyes and chuckled. Hell, SS missed a basketball practice last week because BM forgot about it until it was already half over.
DH and I both agree that kids want to do everything, but that doesn't mean you let them. In our opinion, if SS wanted to try wrestling, I would put him in a short term, few day camp to try it. If he liked it, maybe do a few more camps. Then if he wanted to commit, I would make him pick to either drop the overlapping sport to commit to the new sport or continue with the other sport. DH and I hate that BM over schedules him and since the practices and stuff overlap, he ends up sucking at both because its not feasible. You can't skip practices and games for both sports because they all overlap and still be good. Not to mention, inconsistency lets the team down.
DH knows he has no say and bringing it up to BM is useless because she would just use his disapproval to create a fight, but it won't change the outcome. DH just says "their money and time, their problem." As long as it doesn't interfere with our already limited visitation or BM doesn't use it to try to ask us to drop our time, it doesn't impact us.