And the Mess Continues
So last night, the day before high school graduation DH gets a phone call from the school that says "since your daughter failed her college plus courses you have to pay for them or she can not graduate" SD had started taking college courses her junior year. She could have graduated but she stated why graduate now when I can get college for free if I stay in high school. So she stayed in high school, she moved out of the house and decided to quit going to school and failed all her college courses. The agreement is that as long as you get a passing grade the college courses are free. SD failed her courses therefore she has to pay for them. The fee....$730.
I'm at my breaking point. I don't know how much more of this shit show I can take. And yes DH & I are a team and we have joint accounts, I handle all the finances in our house therefore my hard earned money goes to this spoiled ungrateful brat.
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Nope. She moved out and she
Nope. She moved out and she refuses to go to classes. She can pay and get her diploma when she does.
Does her not having it right away really impact her? Is she trying for a job she has to have it for?
She can get a real job flipping burgers and maybe that will light the fire under her when daddy doesn't bail her out.
A job? What's that?
A job? What's that? Something she has been fired from 8 times now for attendance issues? Her most recent one lasted about a week.
Unfortunately, I guess your
Unfortunately, I guess your DH will have to pay... maybe he can make her repay him. I guess he should count himself lucky that they are at CC tuition and not a 4 year cost!...
My YSD also took some classes like this. Fortunately she DID pass them.. whew.
If I had to pony up that
If I had to pony up that money she would NOT be graduating this year. Tell her to earn the money and then she can get her diploma. No graduation gifts, parties, activities for her.
I'm sitting here wondering
I'm sitting here wondering how the college credit classes were free in the first place (regardless of kid's grades in failing them).
In order to take the duel credit courses here, I had to enroll my daughter out at the college and pre-pay for the semester hours. Soar in them or sink and fail, courses had to be pre-paid with no reimbursement if dropping course before finishing them.
All the fees (regular HS registration fees, duel credit classes, any lab fees blah blah) were all due by x date each year before school started.
Anyway, being your skid just didn't bother attending them, I'd make her pay the current due. Would not be a difference if they were pre-paid or due now because she failed them. The cost would be hers and I could not care any less if she got her diploma right now or when she managed to cough the fees up.
Why isn't half these fees for the failed course over on BM's spreadsheet as BM now owing half?
I just caught the $2.08 'you owe me for shortage on health care' blog you put up, prior to reading this one. I wonder what BM would think if Dad told her he'd pay BM the six months of $2.08 right after BM paid her 1/2 of the failed duel credits.
During high school if you do
During high school if you do the college courses, the courses are all FREE if you obtain a passing grade.
I told DH you better get on the phone with BM and tell her she owes $365 if she wants to see her darling little daughter to graduate.
Did you SD make any type of
Did you SD make any type of agreement prior to signing up for these college courses that she would put in the effort to be successful or SHE would be responsible for the consequences? I'm guessing not, but my land, DH and BM should have made that clear. It seems that teenagers generally think things through better and put forth a bit more effort when the money is coming out of THIER pockets.
My inclination would be to
My inclination would be to tell her to pay for these classes herself. It doesn't sound like she has a pressing need for that diploma if she can't manage to show up for a job. Natural consequences are a good thing. And if she doesn't graduate - no need to give her the $500 graduation gift that she didn't deserve anyway.