SD got a new job and DH was super excited because it was a "real" job and may lead to a career. She was a receptionist rather than her previous server/hostess positions. This was her quickest job to date. She lasted less than 2 weeks before being fired for calling off/being a no show. In the last 2 years she's been fired from 8 jobs! 8 jobs in 2 years!
BM finally steps up and tells and tells SD she's going to move back home because she needs structure in her life and she obviously isn't getting the structure she needs living on her own (technically not on her own, she's living with a family member). I have to say finally BM stepped up to be a parent but she should have 18 1/2 years ago. SD never had rules, consequences or structure in either BM or DH's house. When I tried to provide a structured home I was a horrible bitch and she hated me.
For example when we found drugs in SD's car one day, I wanted to take her car away for a month. The car was in my name, I had every right to set the punishment. I was told "you are being too hard on SD, she's just a teen." "You can't take the car away she needs a car to get to school." Sorry just because she has a license doesn't mean she needs a car, she can take the school bus. So what does DH & BM do? They call a family member and ask that family member "since you have an extra car can SD borrow it for the next month until she gets her car back?" What lesson did that teach her? She still had a car. Guess what happened next...SD sneaks out fo the house, posts photos of herself online high and drunk at 1am. When BM confronted her she admits she sneaks out every night after BM or DH & I go to bed. Then a few days later another picture posted online "Sunday Funday" with a photo of her in said family members vehicle behind the wheel with a beer in her hand. DH calls her out on it and she says "I wasn't driving, I was parked" DH said ok, as long as you are not driving. I asked him how did she get home from wherever she was parked? He didn't have an answer for me.
And if you are wondering what happened to that vehicle...it's now my vehicle. I refused to provide a vehicle for her that will potential kill someone if she is drinking and driving or driving high. I gave her enough chances and she proved she wasn't responsible enough for a vehicle.