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buterfly_2011's picture

Tonight my heart is heavy. World war three has broke out with my ex over our son asking to take a sports break. He plays all summer long no breaks. Has four concussions on record and is 15. Yes 15. He asked to not do a spring sport. I feel like he needs a break. His father is livid at me. Texting me most the night. Asked my opinion about our son running track. I gave it. His response was paragraphs about what a bad kid he will be etc. Then I get a random text from his GF telling me she is keeping him from cursing at me? And this isn't her issue. My reply simple. I didn't involve you.I did not text you. There is no reason for him to curse at me. She then texts in all caps I'll say this one last time not my issue good night. Um did I text her making it her issue? No. Then he sends another 8 page text. Then tells me I can't reply he is too fng pist? So basically my son wants a break. And that is enough to send them to crazy town. My son plays on up to three basketball teams in the summer. Plays football and then school basketball. He is exhausted. I deal with this shot from my ex and then with DH ex. There is never a break from the ignorant badgering or assnine fights these people always bring on.

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Sparklelady's picture

This is a tough situation! Your son is old enough to decide what he'd like to participate in, I'm surprised this became all about you. Unless your ex thinks it's all your doing? Any chance of your son being honest and upfront with his dad? At 15, he'll have to be able to stand up for himself (not just with dad, with everyone he meets) since he's transitioning to adult.

You don't have to engage in battle - too bad your ex slipped off the deep end, he could have handled that better!

ltman's picture

He needs to stay away from contact sports. 4 concussions and only 15, my god! You're xh is a gd idiot.

overworkedmom's picture

Can't blame your son for wanting a break- that is an intense schedule. I do agree with the others, ignore him. Block texts for a day or 2 if you have to. You are doing what is right for your son. Sorry you have to deal with an asshole ex- I feel your pain!!!

QueenBeau's picture

IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE

SD7's BM use to do this to DH. DH would give her an answer or ask a question she didn't like & she would flip. She would throw in there how he is a terrible father, insult any and everything about him, just trying to get an emotional response. In this case, BM has issues & any emotional response (even anger) made her feel good like someone cared about & loved her. One situation in particular I remember she asked DH for $100 for school supplies for SD when she was going into kindergarten. He asked to see the school list & she flipped, cursed him, said her boyfriend (BF of her son, who abandoned them for 2 years & just came back) was going to buy the stuff for SD since he was so cheap, blah blah blah. She just wanted him to respond and flip on her, so she could show everyone how mean he is to her & how she is such a poor single mom doing it all alone.

Anyways later I found the list online & it just had crayons, glue sticks, tissues, & hand sanitizer. We went to sams, bought enough for the whole class for under 50 bucks & donated it to the teacher.

He hasn't responded to her crazy crap in years, & it slowed down a lot after he blocked her texting (doesn't work for most, but BM is only top notch crazy when she can think about what she says first so she is worse in texts than on the phone. Plus she knows DH doesn't listen to voicemails so she doesn't leave them & he can just ignore her calls when she's crazy). But she still, every once & awhile - gives it a try.

Honestly it may never stop on his end but YOU can stop falling for it. It's easier said than done but you can do it!