My marriage is over. It was never the greatest. I was never a priority. I have learned one major lesson. If someone is obsessed with their kid (no matter what the relationship tie really is) there is no changing that. The relationship is not too close because they lived alone and worked as a team. It won't take time. Anyone that tries to make it normal will become the enemy.
I lived alone with my kids. They were never "my team members" I did not speak of them as "we".
My counselor went through a lot of stuff last night with me. We had a two hour phone session. He talked about how he thinks DH is hiding something. There is no need for this reaction. All H does is react if he is ever questioned about his behavior. There is zero self reflection. Most people can look at a situation and see what they did wrong. Everytime H met with counselor it was just about how no one understands SGD and how hard it is. He lives within hisself.
It was a 2 hour session. But the bottom line, nothing can save my marriage. Nothing can change h because he doesn't want it.
My personal struggle right now is DD and DS. They have to go through this again. I did this to them. Doesn't really matter who is at fault for this marriage ending or why. DD and BS have to go through this again.