Fuming; skid stole from our son
Skid strikes again...this time she has stolen money from our son. DH's mother gave some cash to Skid, and money for our son. In the moment, she asked skid to keep our bio's money safe for him until we got home. I gave her the chance to be honest, and she wasn't. Later on I asked her to give me bio's money so I could put it in his money box and she blatantly lied and said she didn't have it. DH for some reason didn't see why I was so pissed off "He's only a baby, he doesn't care, we'll just spend the same amount of money on him when we're out or move it into his savings". That's not the fucking point! My point is, she has pocketed money that she knows is not hers! So she basically got away with stealing. She knew how livid I was.
The next weekend we saw her, she brings a "gift" she bought for him because she "loves him". This gift was a shitty broken old toy from a charity shop to the value of only around £1 if that. BM was cooing over how sweet she was being for getting him a gift...made me feel sick. She stole £40 from him, then not only gets something as cheap as possible, but broken as well. If I had it my way it would have gone straight in the bin. As with everything she only did this supposedly nice gesture to detract from what she had done and make me look like the bad guy. DH was all starry eyed over this "nice gesture", and I couldn't take it. I just said to him "nice of her to buy something broken with some of the money she stole from him last week". He didn't have a response for that....
I'm just so frustrated. Just as I thought we were making headway and that DH was finally getting a handle on this brat, she goes and pulls a stunt like this. Stealing from a baby! How low can she stoop?! For a while, DH realised what she is turning into and was working to try and mould her into a better person, but she's exactly like her mum. I don't know if he's just given up.
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This would be (and has been)
This would be (and has been) a HUGE issue for me. Your dh is effectively putting his child ahead of your shared child by allowing her to mistreat him.
While there were many issues in my relationship with formerSO, the fact that he allowed his son to mistreat our baby was too much. I packed us up and left.
How old is this thieving
How old is this thieving wretch?
What! How could DH think it's
What! How could DH think it's fine for her to take what was a gift to someone else?
I think as the baby's mother you have every right to let SD know you expect to have it paid back. And not in broken toys.
Just as you would if anyone else stole from your child. Don't be passive about it.
DH for some reason didn't see
DH for some reason didn't see why I was so pissed off "He's only a baby, he doesn't care, we'll just spend the same amount of money on him when we're out or move it into his savings"
Your H just sweeping this f@ckery under the rug like its not big deal is alarming. He's making excuses for sh!tty behavior. Look at his lack of action now and just imagine what the future holds as his daughter gets older.....really visualize this and ask yourself if you are willing to tolerate your H putting his head in the sand and not disciplining his thieving child. Next time it won't be money that she steals, it will escalate to other things and she'll get away with it because daddy allows it.....
I wouldn't let this go and if he doesn't change I'd reconsider on how to move forward.
This
This
Does he imagine he'll be able to buy off other parents when they accuse her of stealing? Or shop security who catch her shoplifting?
SD will turn into
Lizzie Borden whose father covered her shoplifting expenses only to be met with an axe in the face.
This is how it starts.
This is how it starts.
Killjoy started out as a liar and thief, and escalated into a lot more lying and thieving, then sexual abuse. The thieving was enough to get her booted from my house, but unfortunately I waited too long.
Your probems are only just beginning. And it is not only BM's fault, it is DH's as well.
Wow the broken toy is just
Wow the broken toy is just icing on the cake. I would definitely mention this to your MIL though be prepared for you to look like an evil greedy stepmom for calling SD out. Never be ashamed to stand up for your child, if you dont then this will only continue and only get worse.
Reminds me of when my SD12 brought a gift for my baby DD. An aunt took her out shopping so the gift was a co-gift from the aunt and obviously paid for by her. Everyone cooed and praised SD for being a great big sister and ignored the fact that this was obviously a gift from the aunt and in the aunt's taste.
Sounds like something my DH
Sounds like something my DH would do. His kids did something bad (steal) so he would fix it by just giving the money to the 2nd kid that was stolen from and also then the skid is happy because they get to keep the $40... that they stole!!!
Yay everybody is happy. That's all DH ever wants is everyone happy but no one learned anything
Go take 40 from your DH's
Go take 40 from your DH's wallet, then remind him it's not stealing since you are all family.
My 2 sd’s aged 24 & 14 will go months if not years no contact
or meeting us including daddy but then its “oh this was on sale we bought it for our brother and sister (my kids with hubby),” suddenly its like hubby forgets that they have been such disrespectful arseholes and really don’t give a shit about any of us but for them if they buy this cheap useless toy crap that’ll get broken in a few days or weeks then they seem like the glorious sisters from friggin heaven
i told hubby bluntly it doesn’t take from the fact that they actively try to disinherit me and our kids by getting you to offload assets, it doesn’t detract from the fact they are disrespectful and it certainly doesn’t detract from the fact that they want nothing ti do with us and have a never ending changing story that they’ve been abandoned by wheelchair bound mummy but then magically they are all good for holidays and mummy is fine. My sd’s have a sick twisted never ending changing story to justify the no contact, the newest is we don’t want to disturb you and cause issues in your marriage when that is what they do.
i mean what kid feels like they can’t go visit their bio parents every now and then because they remarried like that changes the fact you are no longer the child of your parent??
you just need to be smart with how you word things because i call out hubby on his kids bluff and bs all the time with the facts, hubby can’t deny it