You are here

Where does it stop? Graduation is NOT a wedding!

bewitched's picture

H called and told me SD17 called him last night.

First, she wanted him to wire her $27.00 for cap and gown. Because she "forgot" to mention it to him a week ago-and needs it right now. Evidently she has the money in savings, but her excuse is that she "can't get to the bank in time". So she wants him to pay $15.00 to wire $27.00. Thank goodness for once he actually said no. He will repay her the $27.00, but we are not going to be penalized for her last minute behaviour.

Next up, "Daddy, are you going to pay for 1/2 of the decorations?" Seems her mom spent $130.00 on decorations. We are already paying for 1/2 of renting the CC, and the wedding cake and punch. Yes, you read that right. She is having a wedding cake for graduation! Again, he finally told her no. We will not be paying for decorations.

I told H they are acting like this is a wedding for crying out loud. Country club, decorations, wedding cake and punch, open bar. Sounds like a wedding reception to me, not a graduation party.

Oh, and the starter went out on SD17's car. Waaa. Waaa. I'm just so sick of this kid...we're living day to day financially, and overindulging this girl is not on my agenda. It will be interesting to see how H handles all this....

Comments

Gia's picture

at least DH said no...

these women are crazy... I'll tell you what, i would like to have something nice for SD5 and BS1 when they graduate High school, IF they get good grades throughout the years (or showed improvement)... and IF we can "easily" afford such thing, I'm not gonna get debts for things like that... Dirol

~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's

bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
to college in the fall. Because she doesn't have the money.

Guess what? Neither do we, sweetheart.

She could have received a Pell Grant that would've taken care of it for her. Based on her mother's income (whom she lives with), it wouldn't have cost her anything. I know because my son lived with me, and qualified. It took care of all but a few expenses.

BUT they (SD17 & BM) could not be bothered to apply for financial aide. I told SD17 back in November to start working on scholarships, I told her to go to the financial aide office and get things going over and over again. But I, of course, know nothing.

I'm sure BM & SD17 figured-let "Daddy" pay for it. Which is funny now because there is no money left after his garnishments. Guess SD17 will just have to work...

livingonaslipperyslope's picture

on this. SD23 is having a college graduation party that the bill is $2000 on. And then there is the new windshield for her car because she has a crack in it. Of course she has been sleeping in the living room every night becasue the satellite in her room doesn't work...and until daddy fixes it she refuses to seleep in her bedroom. WTF my son has never had satellite in his room and he doesn't complain. He just watches regular TV or movies. But nothing too good for the princess. When does it stop?

sweetthing's picture

Who gets a wedding cake for graduation? What are they gonna have a figurine of the monster w/a cap & gown on the top?

I keep hoping each day I will go on here & see that you have gotten a job & the DH is kicked out. These people are just so over the top.

Serena's picture

all she is getting is a suitcase and a ride to her mom's.

Okay, I'm kidding. But that vision is the only thing that will keep me going for the next DECADE until she's 18. sigh...

Last Nerve's picture

if this WAS a college/university graduation - but HIGH SCHOOL??? :jawdrop: And she's not even going to post secondary in September? So she's getting this big elaborate CC party for what reason?
My oldest graduated hs last year. We got together with my exh and his wife, and planned out a really nice bbq for both 'sides' of the family, friends, etc... I'd say in total it cost about $300 for about the 35 people that were there, which we split, plus people that came also brought dishes with them, so it ended up being 'pot luck'.
A wedding cake? Not us, we went to Costco, and got their large slab carrot cake, and bought some other bars, cookies, and tarts to make trays as well.
Grad costs - cap, gown, programs, all the minor incidentals - were paid to her school at the begining of the school year, so it was nice it was taken care of well before hand.
Sounds like your H is coming around a bit.... Rome wasn't built in a day, hang in there.

kaffonseca's picture

for a highschool graduation?

She doesn't even want to go to college after all this hoopla?

We had a barbq at my parents and called it a day..lol

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

top outrageous for SD17. A bbq is exactly what I originally suggested. Just as I suggested she apply for scholarships. Just as I suggested she apply for financial aide.

Guess I'm the dumb blonde.

Oh well. It will soon all be over. She will be 18 on May 27th, and will be responsible for her own auto insurance (I'm taking her off mine), her own auto repairs, etc. H has done nothing extra for my sons-as they are grown. The same will apply to this spoiled princess, as long as I am in the picture.

kaffonseca's picture

how does she plan on making her way in life? if an "open bar" is BM's suggestion..we know where that will end up..haha.

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

Gia's picture

why in the world??? is that even legal to throw an open bar party at a country club with minors ...??

~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's

Sasha's picture

...

bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

certainly pretty, she's not outstandingly so.
It's really a pity, as the ju co where she lives waives all tuition for students who are locals. So, college would be pretty inexpensive for her, especially as she would definately qualify for a Pell Grant.

IDK what this girl is thinking. Probably that "daddy" will carry her until she's married. Well, I guess if he's single, he can do that if he wants, but not while I'm still his wife.

Gia's picture

to have an open bar for minors?

Call the police? LMAO

~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's

WowjustWow's picture

This is getting out of hand! Tell DH no! no! NO! SD is being ridiculous.

I just love when kids spring crap on parents last minute. Like at 10:30 the other night SD14 says, "I need a notebook for school tomorrow." I said "Tough! You'll have to wait" They know they need it, they just wait till the last damn minute!

~ Formerly ToTheEdge. I have stepped down from the ledge.

kaffonseca's picture

Ok..how will she have "time" to go western union to get the $$ that your DH wired..but she can't get to her own bank to get the $$??? cuz' it's BS.

I like the idea of "call the cops"..haha.

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

My first thought was to call the CC. H states they "will not be serving minors" BUT=again-who's going to police drinks left unattended?

Oh well. So glad she'll be 18...

kaffonseca's picture

and beleive me..there are always adults there that let the minor have a "small sip"

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

kaffonseca's picture

I mean I don't have a problem with having a bar..when my BD graduates hell ya I'm gonna have a few SHOTS to congratulate myself for getting her there..but an open bar? give me a break..most couples can't afford an open bar for their wedding!

"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"

BridgingTheGap's picture

SD is going to get married but is just waiting until the day of the event to announce it to DH so he won't be sad about "losing her" lol hey, you can dream right?

On a more serious note, why is she getting this elaborate party when she's not even going to college in the fall? And the open bar??? I can understand having a bar there for the ADULTS who want to have a drink or two but even then open bars are expensive! Honestly, I'm pretty sure that me and BF won't have one at our wedding simply because I don't think we can afford it....