I’m set free. Finally.
So I got my answer. SD went to the house. Saw the decorations. Wedding cake. Charcuterie board. All done by ME. So who does she call? Not me, her father. He was outside and the cell phone was in house with me. Then she texted both of us together basically thanking both of us so much.
If that doesn't smack sense in my head nothing else will. I am only a person she will superficially text if I do something really really nice for her.
My daughter said it best. My husband has accepted this behavior toward me. He will never say anything to the them. I am sure tomorrow when he talks to her he will tell me that blank is so happy and said to thank me.
No more lifting a finger. I will let him handle everything now.