So back in Feb my ex contacted the kids to see them that weekend.  They had previous plans, and my youngest sons friends was deploying so they asked him if they could do it the following weekend.  He said he couldn't because he was travelling.  All that said, they assumed he was going on vac or something.  Keep in mind the boys are grown (18-20) so they rarely do overnights of course and typically only saw him every 4-6 wks for a dinner or day out or something...

My 18yr old turned 19 a couple weeks ago and didn't get a call or text from his dad.  The next day was my exes' bday so I told my son to call him and text anyway as could be he was sick (always excusing this ahole)- My ex was diagnosed with MS last year.  

Anyways,  call went to vmail and no text back.  I started wondering where he was to be honest because it's odd for the boys to not hear anything for 2 plus months-and especially during this pandemic.  I talked to my ex-SIL yesterday (lives in S. America), we stay in touch and are FB friends, she knows all about her brothers crap relationship w/the boys and our divorce when they were toddlers as he was very abusive.  I asked her if she had heard from him at all.  She was SHOCKED that we didn't know anything.  He's been back in S. America since Feb-the weekend he said he was travelling I guess, but never ONCE told the boys he was leaving the country or for how long.  He had talked about it last year about maybe going down for treatment there- MUCH cheaper but in usual ahole fashion never confirmed and hasn't contacted them since, not through FB, nothing.  

My SIL said he's in bad shape and after Dr visits and further exploration his diagnosis is Parkinson's.  I hate wishing bad on anyone because bad things happen to good people, but he was NEVER a good person, a horrible husband and father.  Narcissistic, selfish, abusive, dismissive.  I can't feel sorry for him though I do feel bad for my boys-overall they have never had a close relationship.  Apparently he is also taking care of my ex-FIL some as my ex-MIL is doing home care for an elder partient-which is odd because the woman herself is in her 80's lol....guess she's still in ok shape.  She was always a very active woman who would get up on roofs to sweep debri off in her 70's.  

She said he is coming back to the US soon for some paperwork (I assume perhaps disability application or something, not sure).  Even if he does were in lockdown, ughhhh!  I told the boys what was going on and they didn't really understand what Parkinsons' is or MS.  To be honest, neither do I other then the basics.   I don't want to say Karma train ran him over- btw he never re-marrried or could hold a long term relationship even-but I wonder you know?  Did Karma come knocking?   I will say as I'm not that much of a beotch...I am glad he is there getting affordable treatment, probably best for him.  I always knew he would go back eventually, guess best now.  Maybe once this pandemic is over the boys can always make a trip down to visit him if they want to....they can fly for free because of my job.  I AM pissed he hasn't attempted to even let them know this whole time, but it's typical ex.