And just on with life---Trigger!!!
Triger Warning!!!
Topics included: Miscarriage/Abortion
Well, not much 'new' as the cycle of BS continues in life, I'm getting used to living in turmoil to be honest.
Was hospitalized YET AGAIN last week because of my gallbladder, had the absolute worst medical experience of my life (enough to where my insurance company is helping file a grievance)...if I listed all that was wrong it would make your head spin. That said, I finally have all my Drs onboard to proceed with the removal surgery (I had PE last month and on blood thinners so it's still risky)- by end of week I will have a date, and they said it could be likely in the next week or two!
My oldest son psychosis is kicking back up, so who knows when the next call to have him hospitalized is coming...all over again (been a couple years since the last incident).
MIL is toxis as ever, we went to return this room divider thing and get her signature on the bill of sale for the vehicle...and she held onto it and wouldn't sign until she unloaded on DH (see previous blogs)- DH for the first time in his life blew up on her in a way I never saw him stand up to her toxic ass. I wish we could have said more, she looks deranged, the relationship is over pretty much between them. I'm sure she will likely change her will know, but DH doesn't even care.
SD is moving back to BM's this week, BM had her parents living w/her and they are moving out of state again. So she just puts up with MIL's toxic behavior as best she can and avoids her. Her and baby daddy are somewhat back together, and as icing on the cake, she is knocked up AGAIN! In our state we have the HB bill, and since she was a week over by US measurements they won't touch her. She has a scheduled one out of state in two weeks. She is in no way having it, as she now knows what it entails. I am furious with them both for not being more careful, they claim it was 'pre-ejac'- which I told her prior you CAN get pregnant that way, I did TWICE (but miscarried)- told her to have them put her on something permanent while there...as I've been begging her to do for some time...I will give a pass in that that last few months have been horrible on her given MIL spilling the beans, her dad and her continue to do well despite it all. She doesn't want DH or BM to know about this, OR her baby daddy parents, so other then one friend and baby daddy, I'm the only one supporting her through this right now...which I am glad to do. Grandbaby is cute as ever and walking!! But yep, they are in NO WAY able to afford, care or handle another one...not to mention she's had extended PPD.
The decision of SCOTUS just enrages me (and her) more....accidents DO happen, for her to have to wait till that much further along, go out of state, all this craziness is just insanity...because now instead of the pill she is doing the procedure...once you get past 9 weeks it's very risky and more traumatizing w/the pill. I recall as during my miscarriages, mine were 'missed abortions' as in I wouldn't naturally expel, so both times I had to be given pills to take at home- my 1st one I was around 9-10 weeks and I definately do not recommend, in retrospect I wish I would have done the D&C-the 2nd one I had I was around 7 weeks and it was less painful/tramautic. Eff these government men gettign in the way of our reproductive rights!!
So all in all, crazy as always, I'm down several lbs and have 22 more to go...sugars are finally stabilizing. The testing at hospital revealed all kinds of stuff so it's overwhelming dealing with all the health issues, advocating for yourself with drs and specialists, testing, etc....but light at the end of the tunnel now.
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Oh my gosh you are going
Oh my gosh you are going through so much.
I'm also pretty upset about the court decisions and laws being put in place. I think if you're against termination then don't terminate but to impose your will on someone else who is in a vastly different situation is cruel. Accidents happen, stupidity happens, r@pes happen, birth defects happen, illnesses happen...I could rant for hours. I've never had to terminate, I've been lucky, smart and privileged enough that I've never had to but I know not everyone is in the same position as me. And now that people have to travel hundreds of miles and women who are miscarrying have to wait until they're near death... It's so messed up.
It's not a moral thing, it's a medical decision, and it's cold hard math. Either unlucky statistics or a household budget that would break. And you know what? It's none of my business, if I woman wants to terminate I think she should be able to, but it's her responsibility to do it asap.
HUGS!!!!
HUGS!!!!
This is so much for you to shoulder! I'm glad SD can confide in you and feels safe to do so. It's just horrible that she has to go through those lenghts to have a proceedure done. I get really emotional talking about the new laws and how unprotected so many women are. I was talking to my DD15 about it this past weekend. She is very pro-life. I was too at her age. I think for many, you have to have life experience and see the real world to know- that what you may choose, won't be the right choice for someone else. I just reminded her that I was lucky, pure and simple that I never had to make a choice and that I pray she doesn't either.
Sorry to hear she has to go
Sorry to hear she has to go through all of that, where we live thankfully women still have rights to their bodies, my DH wants us to move to a state that would prefer women stay baregoot and pregnant, I told him he can move wherever he wants, as a woman with a daughter we have to pick and choose now, so ridiculous.
I am both a conservative and pro-choice. If that term isn't so
dated as to be no longer in use. While I get the constitutional impact of overturning Roe V. Wade, as a States rather than Federal issue, it would have been far better to let it ride than open up this current shit storm of crap. IMHO. The recent SCOTUS ruling did not outlaw abortion, it made it a State law issue. Now we have the risk of 50 different interpretations of abortion regulations.
smh
Full disclosure, my college GF and I got pregnant. I proposed, she accepted, and also chose to terminate the pregnancy. I was with her. It was her body, and her decision. I was not going to leave her side during that comprehensive experience. I funded the costs not covered by insurance/programs. That child would be nearly 40 at this point, if my math is right. A year later we broke up when I transferred universities.
Though I will say that yes, a whups may happen, they are still a choice. Withdrawal is the birth control choice of the clueless and is total bullshit. Pre-ejac, post-ejac re-entry, one stroke too many, etc, etc, etc.... All can cause pregnancy.
Both our our nephew/niece from SIL are whups babies. Accordnng to SIL, initially anyway. She was supposedly on the pill and also on antibiotics which is what caused the pregnancy. Nope dumbass, having sex caused the pregnancy.
Meanwhile back at the ranch and a number of years later, at a drunken girls night out with one of my DW's childhood BFFs who SIL considers one of her BFFs, SIL shared that both pregnancies were planned and planned prior to marriage so they could stick the hospital/taxpayers/charitable organizations with the bill for her spawning costs. There was no birth control, no antibiotics. Just bullshit.
I really do detest my SIL.
Bad Rags, bad. (hand slap)
All IMHO of course.