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Anyone else sad COVID is almost over?

SeeYouNever's picture

I'm sad the pandemic is just about over. I enjoyed having an excuse not to see my in laws and SD. I got to spend a lot more time with my daughter at home and I got pregnant and had a second sweet little daughter. 

Now SD13 wants to visit more after seeing her sparsely for the last 2+ years. She is openly hostile to DH and has him blocked whenever she's at BMs but then comes to our house and acts all sweet and says she misses him but she's soooo busy and that's why she can't respond but oh can you buy me this? She pretends like I don't exist which is fine by me. But she is all over the toddler and baby while also hating them and completing. It's all an act to get praise from DH and his family about being such a wonderful big sister (gag). She doesn't care about my children, they are just tools for her to get more likes on her social media. She also has to share food and drink from my toddler's sippy cup, GROSS. Get your germs away!

Ugh SIL is bringing her this weekend.  SIL is fake, SD is fake... The whole pretending to have a relationship is fake. I know they talk shit about DH, me and our kids before and after coming. SIL and SD are two bi*ch peas in a pod and it's obvious by the fake Minnir mouse voices they use and when the mask falls off as soon as we leave the room or refuse their ridiculous requests, like when they wanted DH to take them on a vacation and exclude me and our toddler. DH was not having that and they both got mad about him refusing to exclude his wife and toddler from their imaginary vacation. Seriously who asks someone to spend thousands of dollars and asks them to exclude his wife and babies in the process? Then turn around and pretend to be sweet and loving to my babies. Yeah right. 

They aren't going to have a relationship with my daughters, I will make sure of it. My kids don't need that toxic fakeness.

 

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futurobrillante99's picture

Well, I wouldn't be too sure of it judging by what the rest of the world is experiencing, but YES.

Work is already saying that they want us onsite at least 3 days a week and nearer to the end of the year, 5 days a week. That isn't conducive to my long distance relationship, so it will probably force the issue of a job change if I want to spend more time with my SO.

I also didn't like it that the airport was MOBBED when I flew to visit my daughter. It was so nice having 1/2 empty planes and airports! LOL

But I can relate totally to not being able to use Covid as a reason to avoid unpleasant people. I urge you to avoid them anyway. You don't need Covid as a reason. You can just say "No Thanks." It's hard, but it's a good idea.

SeeYouNever's picture

I think Covid has changed a lot of what I even want to do. The idea of flying or going somewhere public and crowded has no appeal to me. I think introverts were in their element and don't really want to go back to normal. 

 

tog redux's picture

Yes. And No.

Yes - I liked working from home (now back on site 5 days a week), and having a good excuse not to go to family events or even leave our house all weekend.  

No - we'd like to do more, but with DH being immunocompromised, even though he's vaccinated he may not be safe, so we have to still limit travel, etc. 

Stepdrama2020's picture

Covid has kept the toxic away for so many.

Dang your SD and SIL sound gross. 

Make you and your darling DD's scarce when they come. Either that or come up with the sniffles and cough.   hack sniff hack "sorry I am sick "

Rumplestiltskin's picture

Nah, the benefits of the quarantine ran out for me last July (working from home, less frequent seeing of undesirables.) That part was nice while it lasted, though! 

Hastings's picture

A bit, yes. I'm an introverted homebody by nature do elements of this have been heavenly! Next week, I have to go back to the office 4 days a week. Not happy.

The only positive (other than the obvious negative impacts this whole experience has had on people across the world) is that SS10 will go back to school in the fall. Online learning has been a joke and having him here 24/7 has really wrought havoc on DH's and my nerves.

AgedOut's picture

and where you're coming from. I wouldn't want more of them either.

 

Why not, when you know they're coming, grab your two littles and head out for a mommy day of fun. Nothing says you have to sit there and be treated badly in your own home. Go to the zoo, just you nd your kiddos, or to the park, or to anywhere and wear those kiddo out then arrive home with a "oh hi SIL, oh Hi SD, the kids are so tired and I forgot you were coming. Nap time for them but great to see you two"  then go tuck the littles in and enjoy some you time with your laptop or tv alone in your room.

ndc's picture

Well, I'm not convinced it's over, especially if people refuse to get the vaccine.  In all honesty, in my area, where the courts routinely threw out stay at home orders and mask mandates, schools have been in-person for the entire school year and many people have gone about their lives as normal, I see no difference at all (other than weather-related differences in how much people go out) between now and 6 months ago.  DH has worked outside the home for the entire pandemic, and with the exception of a couple weeks last spring the skids have carried on their custody schedule as usual.  I guess one plus is that MIL hasn't visited from out of state in over a year.  From what I'm hearing, there are going to be permanent changes for a lot of people.  I know where my sister works they were planning to add a new building to their office complex, and now they've decided that "work from home" works and they scrapped the new building and plan to have people space-share and come into the office only a couple days a week, permanently.

In your case, it sounds like the "stay at home" part of covid was a blessing, and bringing back toxic people to your life will definitely be a negative.  Does your husband see the advantages of his family not being around?  Is he willing to limit their visits?

missgingersnap2021's picture

I was just thinking the same thing - that I am sad Covid is ending. DH has made two comments how he needs to takes SD away this summer, And as he said "Not just one time". So yayyy!! We have to have two mini vacays with her. Last summer was so nice without having to try and figure out where to go with her.

SeeYouNever's picture

Yeah your DH can go take her and have fun. 

I don't get how these stepkids need so many dang vacations.

Sparky66's picture

My SS ignores DH texts most of the time and only replies when he wants something. He only says I love you too when my husband agrees to buying him something. SS is 19 and I tried for many years (since he was 3) to be there for him but BM made it impossible. They constantly guilt DH to get as much as they can out of him. It never ends when BM is toxic, the skids will be the same exact way.

hereiam's picture

As far as step world is concerned, Covid has not changed anything in my life, as we didn't see my SD (now an adult), much anyway. Work wise, same, DH and I have gone to work as before.

I will say that I think we can take some things forward.

I like not having people breathe down my neck while in line, I like not shaking hands with people, I like that businesses are more conscious of sanitation practices. These are things that I would like to see continue and that I think are good, overall, whether it be lower cases of the flu, less colds, whatever. I've never been a germaphobe but Covid has made me realize just how gross life is, sometimes, and how Howie Mandel kind of had it right the whole time.

FLnokids2021's picture

For me I'm looking forward to his kids going back to school in person.  Virtual school provides a reason they can come here (they go to school where mom lives).  Now with virtual school they spent the last entire month here.  It was so distracting as I work from home.  I am truly hoping their mom sends them back in person in the fall so they can't come here just any time.  

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

YES!! I thought it was just me, but I actually mentioned it to my therapist a couple weeks ago, and what she said makes perfect sense. I'm a hardcore introvert. I like to be at home, I only like being around certain select people, and I like things to be peaceful. During quarantine, we introverts RULED! It was finally our time to shine. Everyone had to adjust to our way of living. We weren't "weird" for staying home on a Friday night instead of going (squirm) OUT. For once in our lives, the world did what we wanted it to. Now that it's over (or at least mostly), we're getting all angsty. LOL! It makes perfect sense to me! Back to associating with people we don't necessarily want to. No more working from our little cocoons, in our PJs, with our pets, at home. Don't get me wrong, I'm NOT happy about the Covid part, but the hibernating for a year? Best. Thing. Ever.