Just venting.

I'm so freaking sick of this competition for being the favorite, SD will not let it go and SIL encourages it.

SIL called my DH the other day to tell him she was going to a city in my home state. I'm not sure why since it's not a wonderful tourist destination or anything, it's a decaying industrial city with a violence and drug problem, but a small nice downtown. She wanted us to come. Perhaps so I could be their tour guide? Or perhaps so DH could bring his wallet?

Anyway SIL started to try to sell it and he wasn't interested. He said if he has to pack up our kids to go somewhere it's got to be someplace nicer than that. SIL then said his favorite sister and his favorite daughter wanted to go. Then the whole mood shifted and he ended the call pretty quick. 

The last time we saw SD she dropped a few "I'm your favorite"s and my DH reacts with a mix of guilt and irritation. Basically SD can have anything she wants when she says that. She is constantly trying to make up a reason why she is the best at whatever. She was talking about astrology and how her sign is the best one and then asking everybody what their sign was and listing negative traits about theirs. She was also listing off reasons why oldest children are always the favorite because they are better at everything. She is in a competition with my kids as well as her cousins, she is 14 and the next oldest is almost 5, so not even near in age. I think she is trying to guilt my DH, but the major part of it is insecurity. Though I know it's probably coming from a place of hurt it does just sounds so ugly when she starts talking like this. My DH usually just says he doesn't have a favorite or he rolls his eyes and ignores it. 

SD is quite smitten with my baby and has been saying that she is her favorite and her twin. My baby looks even more like me than my toddler so no SD she is not your twin! But I think she is doing this because my toddler IS DHs favorite right now. I really lucked out with the toddler, she has always been easy and has a sweet and easy going personality, I love my baby just as much but she is more difficult and I feel sometimes like I'm the only one who has patience for her. I think for dads their favorite is the most affectionate and easy kid. SD keeps saying negative things about middle children which annoys my other SIL (the one I like) and tries to triangulate my family.