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Got the court date!

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Tue, 04/23/2019 - 2:17pm

Well we got he court date to go in front of the judge and have the adoption of SS all official. I am excited we have shared the news with our family but only after she signed the papers. Everyone is really excited for us and super happy for SS.

DH and I are not sharing the court date hearing with anyone. Mainly because we do not want anyone there but the three of us. DH's parents will be in town during it but we have opted not to mention the date to them. I really do not want MIL there and if she is there I an see SIL wanting to be there too.

My option it is not really about them it is about the three of us. I just feel they would take away from what should be our moment and say and do something stupid. Trust me they both say plenty lately. I can not wait for this to all be done and maybe finally I feel like I do not have to be polite to my in-laws when they imply that I am to mean of a parent, or that I need to relax, or that I am overly negative. Maybe when this is all final I will feel like I will have more of a right to tell them to shut their traps. That is not why I am adopting him but maybe I will just feel like I have a leg to stand on with the in-laws finally.

Anyway I am so excited and I can not wait for everything to be legal.

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Submitted by Thumper on Tue, 04/23/2019 - 3:27pm

Ashmar...about your inlaws and dh's family.

Until you tell them they are not allowed IN YOUR HOME...it will never stop. Your an adult and you do not have to do anything YOU dont want to....

Never surround yourself, over and over again with people who are crappy. You know what crappy means. And yeah,,,that means his family.

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Submitted by still learning on Wed, 04/24/2019 - 1:06am

"maybe finally I feel like I do not have to be polite to my in-laws when they imply that I am to mean of a parent, or that I need to relax, or that I am overly negative. Maybe when this is all final I will feel like I will have more of a right to tell them to shut their traps."

A piece of paper is not going to change their view of your parenting style.  Good luck, you'll need it.  

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Wed, 04/24/2019 - 9:56am

I know it wont change their view but maybe I might feel more comfortable speaking my mind but stuff. Maybe it wont I am not really sure. I do have a hard time feeling them to basically shut it when they say stuff to me all the time. I literally can not even talk about SS without being corrected good or bad by them. I am starting to just not talk around them anymore.