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Got the court date!

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Well we got he court date to go in front of the judge and have the adoption of SS all official. I am excited we have shared the news with our family but only after she signed the papers. Everyone is really excited for us and super happy for SS.

DH and I are not sharing the court date hearing with anyone. Mainly because we do not want anyone there but the three of us. DH's parents will be in town during it but we have opted not to mention the date to them. I really do not want MIL there and if she is there I an see SIL wanting to be there too.

Just needed to write it down!

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I am going ot start this by saying i know I vent a lot on here about my in-laws. Basically if you put in BM for the word in-laws in my situation, I feel maybe people could understand a little more.

SS is in counseling and we are working through some stuff with him specific. He excessive need for attention all the time good or bad attention just attention. I love him do not get me wrong I really do but I am wearing down some days. He is not as bad with his dad with this behavior it is more with me. It becomes so much worse with his aunt or when others are around.

Well it sucks when you know you are getting super judged by people!

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This weekend was good. SS10 got all his stuff back he was happy but we set up a new system where he now earns videogame time for things he does around the house and get time taken away for lying, poor attitude and so on. Week one went well he was motivated to get his stuff done and really started watching what he was saying.

It is so hard to just not yell!

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So today SS10 and I are heading out and I ask did he get his snack he said yes. Long story short no he didn't I grabbed no big. I realized the snack bowl has not gotten smaller lately. I asked if he still was grabbing his snacks and he said yes and turn out no and he had been lying to me about it lately. Why I am not sure I asked he said he was afraid he would get in trouble if he told me he did not grab his snack. So I said well you have been lying to me lately so no tv and video games tonight. This one the day when his recent punishment was finally getting lifted.

Start to realize something

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Well SS10 has an attitude still like, well crap. Anyway SS takes it upon himself to turn the thermostat up again in his bathroom to over 80 yes over 80 because he was in there for 5 minutes and he was cold. Third time now. First time nice talk explained to him not to do. 2nd time he did it was punished a little and explained it costs us money.

Got a hold of the BM!

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Yup DH got a hold of her last night. Contacted a few people and I found her husbands number on-line. Anyway after a few messages and a person getting a hold of her to tell her to call DH she did.

She agreed to sign the document and was happy SS has a family and mom according to DH. Looks like all this will go smoothly and there will be no issues with me officially adopting my SS. Yay! I am really happy but I think I will be over the moon when all is said and done.

Contacted the BM!

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Well DH did and he contacted SS10 BM via facebook. The only way we know how. She did not respond not sure she even got the message yet. I do not think so as you can kinda tell. Anyway now it is waiting game.

As we are waiting I am digging and trying to find and address for her on-line but to no luck or I have to pay to find it. We might go that route. DH is going to try to contact a few people he knows that may have her number before we do that.

Kids and Video Games

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From my previous posts you all have noticed we are struggling with behavior things with SS10.

I am starting to wonder about some stuff because last night we got into his attitude again. Something came up about his friends get to do so much more than he does so I am wondering for all those out there what do you think is appropriate age for certain things.

Fortnite video game:
Destiny Video Game:
Zelda Video Game:
Jaws movie:
Dead Pool 1&2 movie:
Halloween Movies:
All Avenger movies:

Having a day!

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I am tired this week and just having my fill of things all in all. As I talk to people I work with who are not step-parents or have ever tried to parent a child who was partly raised by g-parents, DH, and aunt sometimes, I realize they have no freaking clue!