Feeling a little stuck and tired!
Well SS8 has huge tonsils again and complaining of a sore throat. Last time was not strep but this kid has barely made a full two months since I have known him without complaining of his tonsils.
Waiting out the weeks now at this point until the future in-laws move to FL. Saw them for a few minutes this past weekend to pick up some things SO still had at their house. I think that will be the last time I go with him to get stuff. I just get annoyed at them telling us the same thing over and over again about how we need to move stuff to our house. I know I get it but we are both busy and my car broke down last week. I have just had my fill at this point and wondering what it would be like to a go a whole month without any in-laws around.
Last thing is I am hating my job. I am so bored out of my mind and can not stand the catty petty childishness of the office anymore. I hear other people whisper all the time about everyone else in the company and about me from time to time. Four years of this I think I am ready to move on. I have begun hunting for a new job and hope something turns up.
This is just a random post. I am tired and feeling stuck.
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Job-hunting is a positive
Job-hunting is a positive step, definite bonus working with respectful pro's instead of a culture of gossip & rumor. You should throw yourself a personal party when in-laws are gone... get a pedicure or share a bottle of wine with a friend. Good times are ahead!
Ash... I know you have a lot
Ash... I know you have a lot on your plate.. but try to not pick up responsibilities that you don't have to.
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Tonsil Boy. He has a father, let his dad do the worry dance on this.
Inlaws nagging. Again, they are his parents and it is his responsibility to move the stuff out of his folk's house. I totally get why they are nagging. They are trying to get ready to move. They HAVE to empty the house. So, your BF really needs to make this a priority to get his crap out of their way. If it is just stuff they are giving away.. then he needs to let them know now if he doesn't want the stuff so they can arrange for the salvation army or some other organization to come pick it up for donation.
Good on you for making a step towards finding a new job. toxic workplaces can suck the life out of you.
I know that taking a step back must be hard for you. Unfortunately, your BF has a history of letting other people pick up his slack. You are doing it now... running the kid to appts etc... I think you need to step back and let him fully deal with his responsibilities and make sure that he is going to be able to do so.
I know you just want to help.. but you are enabling him to delegate too much worry your way.
I am not taking SS to the
I am not taking SS to the next appointment if he has to go, my SO is. I only took him last time because I was taking off that day. I get what you are saying. I really am not doing that much I promise.
As for the in-laws I get their point. We have till the end of the month to get everything. It is not that we do not want to it just things came up. SS has football every weekend so that takes up time. It will not stop raining where I live lately. When my car broke down we had to deal with that and juggle vehicles around a little the one weekend. It just got to a point lately we can not even sit down to a meal all together or go watch SS's football game without them saying something to him and me multiple times.
Thanks for the support though and your words.
he got most of his stuff out
he got most of his stuff out already and we took what little he had left this weekend. Now it is stuff they want to unload and we said we can take some of it as we need some furniture. Yes we agreed and I agree we need to get it out of there. In all honesty we have had no time and when we do it is raining. Like today no football practice tonight and SO is totally free when I get home. Well it is raining.
I would rather tell them to just get rid of stuff than rent a u-haul. My SO has a truck and trailer so we can take a lot in trip. His dad had a big truck and could have moved most of the crap himself but before thinking things through he sold it now they can't even take crap to the goodwill.
I do think they need to have some patience the house sold like three weeks ago officially. They have even text a pic of the list of things we are taking. OK I get it we need to go get stuff. Just ready for it to be done and have them move so things can get into a normal routine.
I hope my mom never moves
I hope my mom never moves because I still have a whole room full of stuff at her house and no where to keep it at mine. :/
Honestly, I could never see
Honestly, I could never see any of it again and not care. My mom on the other hand, is a borderline hoarder so I think she likes it.
Lol that is totally my SO's
Lol that is totally my SO's mom. She packed a bunch of baxes saying it was SO's stuff when we did the big move. When I finally got to go through some of them I ended up getting rid of most of it. There was like a whole box of gardening books and I do not garden, really old hand towels with lace fringe and just some things that remind you of the 70's and 80's. Some old sheets and bedding that does not fit my bed at all and are just old. The elastic does not stretch anymore. She is still just throwing junk at us. So much fun.
Both SO's mom and my mom do
Both SO's mom and my mom do this! I am like, "No, I don't want your old junk that you just can't bear to throw away." Sheesh. Every darn time DD walks in from hanging out with my mom with a Wal-Mart sack. Sometimes I just throw it away when DD isn't looking. And you know what? She has never ONCE asked where the crap went!
I know. I have been asked
I know. I have been asked multiple times about some of SS's old toys. Ones he has never played with since I have known him. I said I know he will not play with those they are like toys that 3 to 5 year olds play with. She just will not give up. I have yet to go through all the toys she packed for him and it has been over 3 months and ha snot even asked about any of them. That just tells me he does not care. He has the toys he really likes in his room and there is still plenty of them.
Smart to be looking for a new
Smart to be looking for a new job. The last thing you need is added stress from work on top of adjusting to your new home life. Before you know it your in laws will have moved, so that will be one less aggravation on your plate.
I really don't understand
I really don't understand keeping things in parents' houses. Maybe while in college?
I never had anything in my parents house since the day I moved out at 20. My DD has nothing in mine. I have a container of momentos of DD like childhood stuff but they are for me because I want to keep them. My nephew has nothing in my brothers' house (I know because we were looking for something in his apartment and I suggested perhaps it's at his parents house and he looked at me like I have two heads and said he has nothing in his parents house and why would he, he hasn't been left bing there for the past few years). I really don't understand. If people don't need that stuff or have no place for them why don't they get rid of it? Why do they keep stuff in other people's houses? So foreign to me
The only thing new is the
The only thing new is the cats around all the time but they are kept out of his room. The chair he lays on all the time they do not lay on they stick mostly to the sunroom and our bedroom. We monitor it all the time. I clean and vacuum and dust at least twice a week. I am OCD with it.
Outside factors not entirely sure we have the same plants that they had at the old house same trees. We have maple trees and I am not sure they did or not. They actually had way more tress and flowers and everything else because his G-mom loved to garden.
It is only his throat that bothers him. Before we moved into this house he got strep at his old house like three times in about three months.
Dad needs to get on top of
Dad needs to get on top of things with poor child's health. It's ridiculous. Kids don't need to be sick all the time. He needs to see allergist and ear/nose/throat specialist asap. What's dad waiting for?
He is on top of things who
He is on top of things who said he wasn't. The kid unfortunately is sick a lot. He had been to an allergist thank you so much for that suggestion. His new pediatrician said that he is not there yet if he gets strep like 2 more times before the year is out she will refer on.
Oh and did you know my SO switched jobs. That means no insurance right now and yes he is trying to go through the state to get the CHIP they have here in PA. I hope that clears everything up. Some kids are just more sick when they are younger than other kids.
If it will make you feel
If it will make you feel better...... I have to move some of my furniture from my parents house to mine....
very old heavy solid wood...... 5 hour drive one way......
why cause they are moving to my town and my Dad said it will not fit with their furniture, if I don't collect he will sell it..... gah lazy father... it will fit, you simply dismantle it and it takes no space, it's very old furniture from early 1940's...., where I will put it is beyond me, the plan was always at SO's house but now that's off the cards hahahahahaha.....
Regarding work - don't be hasty, take your time finding something you will enjoy and that pays more, but remember you will always have the gossips in the office,
Thanks, I appreciate you
Thanks, I appreciate you posting. I will take my time with the job.
urg economy is very bad,
urg economy is very bad, people can't get loan approvals, but he started cleaning the back yard, selling off junk and painting. Also will replace all the carpets Aergia destroyed out of his pocket, I made it clear I'm not contributing to it and it will not be from the profits. (he does not want to drop the price more cause he will not be able to do anything with his share lol)
I will certainly not upgrade to a larger home hahahahaha, I already have a 2 bedroom house and it's a mission to clean it, very old house all renovated, I like old buildings, parquet floors etc. for now I will simply deposit the money into the trust fund...... till I've decided what to do with it, unless I can get a flat block for cheap... currently I'm looking at 6 duplex complex not that much will be roughly 650KUSD to buy all 6, slap some paint on them, that's all they need and rent it out for 600-800US per unit per month )3 rooms 1.5bathroom, living room, kitchen and garage).. that will cover the bond payment and some reserve for insurance, basic rates and taxes and repairs.
or I might simply just pack up and leave Mars.... start somewhere else, if the job comes through.... expat contract 2 years, or I might just spend the whole lot and get my ass over to US and visit a couple of stalkers
depending on what the profit will be worth lol