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Anywho78's picture

I’ve been reading this site for a little while now & figured I’d introduce myself & my situation.

I am 32 with no BKids. I was married but chose not to have kids until my XH gave me stability…he never did so I have his dogs instead.

I have been with my fiance for 2 years. He is a wonderful man who has a confusing total of 6 kids. He has custody of his youngest 2 who are SS8 & SD7. I play the roll of (step) mom with them as their BM shows next to no interest in them. They call me by my first name which is of course, all good.

So…my FSkids aside from SS8/SD7 are as follows

SS18, SD15, SD13 – He is graduating from HS this year & for the most part a good guy, the girls are manipulative & deceitful…they only visited twice last year. My FH has come to see what type of young women they are. Sadly, there isn’t much he can do about it as BM & the girls treat FH as someone to call if they want something…other than that he’s a non-entity.

SD14-FH’s XSD who one lives out of state & has the same BM as SS8 & SD7. Her BM gave up her parental rights to her parents. I have never met her aside from Skype but she considers FH to be her dad.

FH & I have had out more than fair share of fights over the Skids but we have, so far, been able to come to peaceful agreements on rules, behavior & other general parenting issues. Our situation is far from perfect & I know that it will never be, but that is ok. It’s just SOOOOOOOOOO good to know that I’m not “alone” in this crazy world of Skid/BM issues.

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Frustrated New Wife's picture

Welcome!!!

llorraine23's picture

This website is a wonderful thing, isn't it? Ever since I became a step-mom, I've been amazed at the lack of resources for us. I've only seen one book "StepMonsters" that even remotely deals with our situation.

I wish you the best in your situation-crossing my fingers all goes well.

Anywho78's picture

Thank you all Smile there has been good & bad & I look forward to future good & hold my breath as far as the future bad .

ch21's picture

i actually stumbled upon this website and to my surprise it is wonderful to be able to communicate about these things because we all know that everyone just doesn't get it because they are not going through it

ddakan's picture

The situations these men get themselves into with kids!! The level of dysfunction we find here is truly amazing.

I'm sure you will find solace on this site and friendly ears to listen when you get frustrated. Take in the good and ignore the bad.

I have become a lot less angry and a lot more empowered and I haven't been here that long.

Welcome!