Where do you draw that line?
I think that so many of our stepfamily problems are because there are no clear lines drawn.
Where do you draw the line between kids being "just kids" and "they should know better at this point"? My SDs are 13 and 15. They're well-behaved, respectful people. It took years to make them that way. I know that a lot og you have skids that are teens and adults who are heavily PASed by BM. Despite the PAS, don't you think that somewhere deep down, they know their behavior is wrong?
For those of you who deal with BPD BMs, do you think she knows better than to act the way she does, or do you think it's just her BPD that makes her do this? I think you can have BPD and know better than to be a bad person (depending on if your BPD is severe or not).
I have a hard time figuring out where to draw my lines. My skids BM doesn't have BPD (as far as we know) but she was spoiled a little growing up, and has never had to work. At her age (she's in her 40s) should I blame it mostly on her or blame half of it on her, and the other half on her upbringing?
I'm a compassionate person, and I try to be understanding of people's situations (even BM's). I just don't know where to draw my lines!