What is the love you feel for your kids like in comparison to
The love you feel for your spouse?
I ask this because I really would like to learn more about this from bioparents. I don't have kids of my own, but often think about this.
Is there someone you love more than the other person (s) (spouse or kid(s))? Should a mother or father love their spouse more or kids more? And should our spouses feel more love for their kids, or us?
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The love of your child is
The love of your child is unconditional and with your spouse there are always conditions or there would be no divorce!!
I will say that I do feel that my relationship with my DH is the most important relationship that I have and then my child comes after that - I would die for her but if my relationship with my husband is in trouble then our whole family is in trouble!!
The love for my kids is a
The love for my kids is a very different kind of love that I have for my DH.
The love I have for my kids is an extension of me. It isn't a feeling. There was no "falling in love" - it was just there. Immediately.
The love I have for my husband waxes and wanes. Some days I love him with a deep and passionate desire. Other days it is more just a fantastic friendship. And I did have a choice with him. When I met him we were instantly attracted to each other - but we had to work to get to know each other. To evaluate if we could get along etc. Loving my husband is work - but worth it.
This is why other cultures
This is why other cultures have more than one word for "love". Greeks, for example, have different words for romantic love, familial love, friendship love, and the love a parent has for a child. In other words, the love I have for my children compared to the love I have for a spouse is apples and oranges.
There are some times and scenarios where my kids come first and some where SO does. Then (gasp) there are times when *I* come first.