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OT - Update to 'friend' giving out my phone number

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Friday, I posted about a friend (Miss Thang) who, without a thought, gave my phone number to someone I have not been in contact with for 35 years. https://www.steptalk.org/blog/aniki/ot-absolutely-fuming-245669

Miss Thang was a close friend MANY years ago (almost 40). So we have a lot of history. Once we hit high school, our paths were VERY different, but we were still friendly. I've seen her over the years when a good-sized group of others (10-20+) meet up every now and again. One night, it ended up being just me and Miss Thang (bad weather; the others cancelled). At that point, I realized that, not only had that past closeness become ancient history, she was not someone with whom I want to spend time. In the group situation - not a problem - we all know each other. But we have NOTHING in common except a shared history and the fact that we were close friends a few decades ago. The ship has definitely sailed and has since gone 'round the world 99-100 times. BUT, it wasn't like I was going to change my phone number simply because of that.

So after I cooled down, I texted MT and asked her why she gave my phone number to Old Friend instead of asking me if it was okay. Her reply was "Well he was bugging me about you. He had the hots for you in HS and still does."

WTH. Like I CARE about that??? I'm MARRIED, FFS. Quite HAPPILY married to my soul mate. MT knows this - in fact, she knows my husband. Why would I care about someone nursing a 35 year old crush???

Anyhoo, here's how the "conversation" went:

Me: Hi. I got a text from O.F. He said you gave him my number. I'm baffled why you did that instead of asking me if it was okay.
MT: Well he was bugging me about you. He had the hots for you in HS and still does.
Me: Well, HS was 35 years ago and I'm married. It is NOT okay to give out my number.
MT: He's hot for you. You might want to fool around! Acute
Me. Wow. Not interested. I love my husband and I have morals.
MT: You're such a prude.
Me: I'm okay with that. What I'm not okay with is you giving out my number without asking me.
MT: ~shrug~ I don't think it's a big deal.
Me: And I don't think it's a big deal to change my phone number. Bye.

I talked to DH about it and, yes, I changed my phone number. Farking icehole beeyotch.

Comments

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

What the he!!. She seriously basically suggested you cheat ON YOUR SOULMATE! 

I'm trying to be a nicer person... But I hope Karma decides to take a small visit to her...

Aniki-Moderator's picture

PA, see what I posted above in response to FB. I think Karma has smacked her upside the head. She hates where she and her DH moved and is miserable out there - constantly beeyotching about how unhappy she is. Not that I'll be listening to it any more!

Miss Thang is a serial cheater. Her husband is supposedly HER soulmate, but she thinks nothing of cheating on him on a regular basis. Either she's cheating or she's lying a lot!

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

So zero morals and clearly doesn't understand what a soulmate is... Because when you have your soulmate (and morals) theres no way in he!! you'd ever be tempted to cheat, period!

Glad you don't have to listen anymore!!!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

PA, I've had men come on to me since I married my husband. Not only am I not at all tempted, the mere thought of cheating makes me feel a little sick. I guess I'm a weird one because I've never fantasized about A FAMOUS PERSON, either.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Well Aniki, that's becuase it's your soulmate. The person you belong with! Plus you have some nice standards helping out in there too!!!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

PA, I'm a firm believer in monogamy. And not just because there are so many cooties out there! It's distasteful to ME to be intimate with more than one person. My relationships have been one-on-one or they're over!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Oh, I've had celebrity crushes!! But I have never fantasized about a romantic encounter when with a partner.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Bahahahahahahaaaaaa!!! I just snorted so loudly, the guy in the next cubicle stood up! LOL

lieutenant_dad's picture

Hey, if she doesn't see sharing phone numbers as a big deal, then she shouldn't care about you sharing her texts, either.

With your 10-20+ mutual friends.

On social media.

Oh, and with her husband.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Oh, crap, you mean open up a fakebook account? ~shudder~

If she ever makes it back for another social event... If she says Hi, I will say Hello. IOW, I will be polite. But if she thinks we're going to throw back a couple of beers and be chummy, she is sadly mistaken. And bloody stupid, if she doesn't grasp the fact that our conversation is the end of our "friendship".

WalkOnBy's picture

I am so glad that giving out YOUR phone number doesn't seem like such a big deal to her....

What IS it with these people???

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I'm sure she'd be okay if I took out an ad in neon lights in Times Square, giving out her phone number and that she's available for sexcapades with men or women or extra-terrestrials...

It's bloody ridiculous. Not only do I have to contend with all of the freaking spammers and and scammers, I have some licentious tart giving out my phone number because some doofus has a 35yo, unrequited crush. Dash 1

Merry's picture

Anyone who is not a friend of my marriage cannot be a friend of mine. Or DH's. He had several women "friends," who I also thought were friends of mine but obviously not. Damn near broke us up. End of the story is that the marriage is first and foremost and nobody gets to insert themselves into it. Your "friend" is no friend.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

DH knows her - we all went to HS together - but he's only acquainted with her. He's always thought she was a silly airhead.

You are correct: she is no friend.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

I think it's time to put Miss Thang's number out there on the web, Aniki. And in public restrooms. And bus stops...

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Dangit, Exjulie, revenge is a dish best served cold. It would be prudent to wait a few months before doing that....

Besides, Evil Aniki can make better use of her time. Miss Thang ain't worth the effort. Dirol

advice.only2's picture

Wow the absolute audacity of her to do something like that or even say something like that to you!