Is there anyone else who has this problem
My hb ex was served her Child support papers yesterday. She called my HB twice crying on his shoulder. I was absolutely appalled by his reaction toward her. He was so sympathetic and assured her everything would be ok. It drove me mad. Then I let it go. That was yesterday. Then today, he was in the bathroom talking to her again, reassuring her that nothing has changed just he needed support for the kids. Of course he listened to her cry and whine again. I confronted him on it saying that when issues arise in our home you get angry with me you don't lend a sympathic ear. Why does that woman get those things from you and I don't? I asked if she had said anything about me? At first he said no, but later he said well she said she thought you and one of ss friends mom were talking about her at a football game. I have never said anything about her to anyone other than here on this website. He didn't even defend me when she said that to him. Am I just being uptight about this situation or what? Help me out here!!!!!
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Normal reaction
No your are not being uptight, this is normal reaction when the man you love is giving an ex a sypathetic ear. I don't know the situation, whether this is your skids mum or just an ex or the extent of their relationship.
Either situation though I would be wondering why he is hiding in the bathroom to speak with her?? If he has nothing to hide wouldn't he do it in front of you?? I would watch and listen carefully to assess whether you have a cause to worry, but I wouldn't think you have the problem as this isn't something I would expect from my DH and if it were I would feel the same way.
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crossed the line
My ex and I would talk alot before he remarried, and Jay was very understanding about it. Everyone has always thought it was great that we maintained a friendship. But when your DH did not step up for you, or provided comfort and compassion to her on ANY level that he does not with you, then he has crossed the line. He is being disrespectful to you and your marriage. To keep good communication open is vital, but he went too far!
he says i'm reading to much into it
DH says it was all strategic. Wanted to find out if she was going to fight him. The lawyer had already told DH he had nothing to worry about because of the amount of time skids have lived with us. What's so strategic about letting your ex cry on your shoulder and you pat her back? Oh and get this, she's already calling him again today of course after she thinks he's gone to work. She either waits to call him at work or he waits til he gets to work to call her. What's up with that?
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