Talked with DH about SD not giving privacy
Hi everyone, in my last post I talked about SD not giving privacy. SD12 is always in my room, she always enters like it was hers and I just need my privacy. I dont like to talk with DH about SD because he is extremely defensive, some of you will understand how difficult is to make BM or BD understand they and their children are doing wrong.
Everyone encouraged me to do something about this situation, I really appreciate it, thank you so much to all who commented .To be honest I didnt sleep well for days thinking about it, I was afraid about DH reaction, I know is stupid but for me is a real strugle because I always have to find the way to say things to him about SD without him getting offended.
So I talked to him I let him know that was not right what SD was doing, I explained that I needed to have the liberty of be in my room in underwear, SD needs to learn to knock the door only if she needs something if the door is open she need to also knock the door and ask for permission to enter de room or to take something she needs, when there is no one in the room she can't be in our room because she has no bussines here. You could see his face that he was refusing but he knew I was right. I even told him about SIL told me this girl enters in her room and "borrow" things from her without permission and of course that was not right. He was super worried because he dont want SD feel like our room is prohibited for her because she likes to do everything with us (thats a different problem, she cant do anything by herself) and he don't want her to feel like she is bothering us (actually it si but whatever) I didnt know what to say but I told him that I was not saying she cant be in our room anymore, of course she can but, not the way she is doing it and she needs to learn too respect everyone privacy and ask for permission to enter.
I think went really well with DH, next is talk to SD and Im so SO freaking nervous I dont want her to take things wrong because this kid is already a brat and always plays the victim so I couldnt take things getting worse. Please wish me luck, If someone have an advice for me I will appreciate it.