Last night and this morning I was thinking to myself that we hadn't heard from BM yet this week. Which worried me a little since (for those of you that don't read all my posts) the last time she dropped them off she left a 'love' note for BF asking for a truce and telling him what a good father he was, which angered me when she referred to US as "You and whoever you are with". And she also told us that we were using the notebook wrong - we were writing in it like a journal.

I understand kids are excited for their birthday to come around! At least little kids. My kids have always enjoyed their birthday but didn't go on and on about it! SS14 has been talking about his birthday on FB and to everyone for the past 2 months. He was on a countdown....

We found out SS as been smoking pot in the house. The house where I have a one year old and a ten year old daughter. This made my husband absolutely angry and he started yealling at SS. It was more like screaming at him. This was the worst I have ever seen my husband yell at SS. He starts chewing SS out for everything he is doing that is so wrong. But then my husband said "Fine, go be a whore like your mother, sleeping with everything she could find". This made SS snap. He did not say anything but he was mad. He looked pretty hurt as well. He got on his bike and left the house.

My ss6 started to tell DH that he tells BM about things going on in our house. Examples are that dad drinks beer, takes pills, sleeps naked and ran off the road with the truck. BM has asked ss if dad drinks beer or alcohol and takes pills or vitamins. What 6yr old knows the difference about any of those four things? SS told DH that he wanted to tell BM then it finally came out that she asked him some things.

FDH has been out of town M-Fri training for his new job. Because of that, we didn't take the skids on Weds/Thurs last week. Instead we agreed to have them for the weekend (not regularly scheduled wknd). Since we were making up two nights lost, we planned that we'd have them Saturday and Sunday night and BM would take them on Monday for 4th of July.

So last night SD7 told SO "Yeah, my mom's a bitch" in a totally nonchalant manner. And mind you this is a kid who is not unruly or habitually uses curse words. SD7 even told me a couple of weeks ago that "I've heard bad words a million times, even from my mom, but I NEVER say them." Mind you, SO and I do not speak badly of BM in front of SD other than to explain that BM is not in a good place right now or to explain that SO and BM just don't get along very well. SO told SD that it's ok for SD to love her mom even if he doesn't.

I let a 19 year old, stupid (literally) punk ruin my life on a daily basis. He is the biggest jerk I have ever met and, lucky me, I live with him. He is my step son. Why do I allow this person to push my buttons & make me unhappy in my own home? I want him to go! He makes bad decision after bad decision & refuses to listen to any advice. I don't want to hear "normal teenager" again! I think if I do I will scream!!!! Why is this what everyone says instead of doing something to change the behavior??? It shouldn't be normal!

www.poopsenders.com I am very tempted to send BM a package myself... may have to discuss it with DH and see what his take is on it...

}:) So besides the issues I am having with SD17 and SD17, the elder SD21 came home (from Uni) for a week of holidays. I have had my issues with SD21 as she is lazy, unhelpful and thinks that the world revolves around her. Her father does not see this (or does not want to!) and thinks nothing of it. We have been talking about marriage for the last couple of months and decided to let the skids know and what they think. The younger skids seem to be ok with it, don't want to involved in the actual ceremony but support it to a degree, which we are all happy with.

My mom just passed away and I am a mess. Before you send me too much sympathy let me say we didn't have much of a relationship. She threw me out at 15 and so the relationship died a lot longer before the body that was walking around did. But I'm still upset--finally grieving that I didn't have a mom. And no I was not a bad kid, I got good grades and had a job at 15. My mom wanted to marry a 24 year old and she was 42 and she didn't want me around anymore. She threw out my 18 year old sister and drove my foster brother back to the boys home.