Halloween is one of the holidays I'm starting to dread and are hoping ya'll can give me some advice.

Hi all! Just wanted to share something good that I learned this weekend.

This might have been the blog that blew up steptalk!!!

Junior turned up his nose at the sloppy joes BF made specially for him on Friday night (I knew this would happen). HA HA HA.

hi all

Ok so my DH has to go out of town (required for work) in two weeks. He will be gone for about 6 days. He has joint custody with daughter, 2. It is two weeks on two weeks off.

I haven't been on here in ages mainly because things were going somewhat ok. But recently my DH and I have been having a lot more arguments than usual.

Long story short. My current husband continues to have a volatile relationship with his ex. We really try our best to get along with her, but it keeps getting thrown back in our face.

I come home from work to hear BF on the phone with BM and youngest SS stb 6. "Yesssssss Daddy will pick you up at 3:30 tomorrow" Then to BM: "We don't have anything going on so it's ok" (how the HELL does he know I have nothing going on??? He never asked me!!)

I am trying to think of how we will tell them. I want to do it in a way that is fun for them, to try and get them excited about the idea.

How did you tell your skids you were pregnant.. also, how did you surprise other family members w/the news? I am looking for your creative ideas!!!

I would like for you guys to read these emails and see if you think they sound at all legitimate. I think that there is a lot of made up stuff in them to try to guilt BF into letting her keep SS from coming on visitation. She has always insisted that SS has said he would rather be able to pick and choose when he comes to visit instead of being "forced" to come every other weekend and that that is a major contributing factor to why BF and SS "have no bond". I wish she could see the two of them when SS is here, she'd quit talking about them "having no bond" if she could ever see them together when she's not around! She has also always said that there are things that SS tells her about how he feels and wants to tell BF but he never once has mentioned these feelings to BF or even let on like he feels this way. When SS is with us he is so affectionate and open about his feelings, his relationship with BM and how different it is from his relationship with BF. Am I crazy to think that an 8-10 year old kid could keep up such an elaborate lie for so long because he's supposedly scared of what his father would do if he expressed his true feelings to him? Anyway, here are the emails.

BF got an email from BM today letting him know that she and baby are going on vacation for a week in October. We already knew that but we did not know where she was going. Now we do! Back to the place she went while married to BF to have multiple affairs and attend orgie parties. My concern at this point is that she is bringing baby. BF emailed her back and offered to take baby while she is gone adn I am sure she will refuse but at least he offered. Baby is still pulling on his ear so we are concerned that a plane ride will aggrevate his ear troubles.

I know we have this site as stepparents..anyone know of any bm sites and the issues they face? After a recent incident with bm....I really think she's jealous that I took the only thing she had on me

Well , just like she is fishing , 15 yr old sd rang today , just too keep playing games , telling hubby she still wants to have a relationship, but she wouldnt tell him anything about her life. She said she dosent have a mobile , all she did was lie.

Well I am finally going back to FH's place back east (the house he is finally getting on the market this week - or i will seriously kill him) for the first time after being together for almost 3 years. I AM FREAKING OUT because I am meeting his Mom and Dad for the first time (cuz you know we are living in sin since we aren't married yet!) This is where his ex and SD live and HIS ENTIRE FAMILY. BM and he were never married and broke up before SD was born. The family did not care for her when they were together but was unhappy with my FH for not marrying her because they had a child together (what a bunch of nutcases) He didn't give a crap what his family said because he was trying to get the woman out of his house for a year and was dating someone else and he went out partying one night thinking it was his g/f (who drove him home) and it was his ex in his bed the next am - and he was so drunk he thought he had sex with his current g/f!!!!! CRAZY! When ex finds out she is pregnant and asks if he is going to marry her now he was like no I don't love you and I will NEVER marry you - crazy ex finally moves out! After saying she had no money no where to go, no friends, oh the apt I was trying to get fell through, my car broke down, whatever. SO ex was MIA from their lives for about 8 yrs. (SD is now almost 16.) Well one day she decides to go to their church (they are strict catholics)so now the family treats her like their DAUGHTER IN LAW. MY FH used to get contracts for work and move for a year here 6mths here and when he was gone the ex would always bring SD and hang out like she was part of the family. When FH was in town he would bring his daughter but she would always try to include herself - he would stick around for an hour or two for his kids sake - ignore BM and leave.

At the new middle school for step-son 12. It's nice to be included and I wouldn't have it any other way but it kind of makes me a little sad sometimes... I never get to be the mom. I don't get to sign up as a parent helper (not that his mom does), I don't get to be involved every day with homework and know how he's progressing. I don't get to make decisions about what classes he takes or after school activities. He's a great kid and both he and his dad treat me with respect and appreciate what I do but I never get to be the mom.