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I've been trying to figure out the disconnect. The fixation on his past life, his kids fixation on their past life with their parents together. But many times it's not even them together...it's him and his kids alone. I overheard him talking to an old friend tonight at a social event...and my husband is saying, "she just filed for divorce, bam, out of the blue, no warning"
I've been trying to figure out the disconnect. The fixation on his past life, his kids fixation on their past life with their parents together. But many times it's not even them together...it's him and his kids alone. I overheard him talking to an old friend tonight at a social event...and my husband is saying, "she just filed for divorce, bam, out of the blue, no warning"
SS13 came back to our house on Wednesday for a partial week (sometimes DH and BM split a week when adjustments need to be made -- in this case, so the schedule works for BM to have him for spring break). Only four days, but, boy, the attitude...
I asked DH last night if YSD18 was going to be here this weekend. It's been super sporadic since the beginning of the school year.
He said no. Then he added that he hadn't even contacted her, that if she was coming it was on her to let him know, that he's not going to chase her down.
Huh. This is new.
It's been a rough week. Maybe it's menopause - not sure - but I've been pretty weepy and blue this week.
I hate it that I had a spell of missing my XBF. I used ALL the techniques to remind myself why I walked away. Logically, it all makes sense. Emotionally, I guess I was just going through a phase of missing his presence and all of the good things. I've shaken it off and today is a better day.
We had SD's meeting with the committee this morning to go over the evaluation and discuss next steps for SD. Both DH and I agree the meeting actually went really well. To start off with, BM was LATE and they started the meeting with just DH and I virtually. Stepdad was not present at the meeting and BM looked like she rolled out of bed. Between the school psychologist, special education teacher, SD's teacher, and the speech teacher, they were extremely thorough.
I keep telling my SO to let SS19 do his online things on his own - like signing up for classes in Community College, of any of his things that need to be done online. The other day I saw SO (as usual) doing some College stuff for SS19, so I opened my piehole and said: let him do it. SO got irked and another battle began.
DH has two ex wives. OG and he have been divorced 30+ years yet routinely she brings him up to their eldest daughter in some negative form. DH never thinks about this woman at all. The kids are in their 30's now and he hasn't been obligated to deal with her (minus the SK wedding last year) in literal decade+.
Sometimes he and I literally laugh out loud with each other at the sheer ridiculous notion she STILL has opinions she voices to the kid about him.
It's been ages since I've been here and written anything... and, fyi... the sk's growing up just means bigger issues so don't hold your breath until they're "out of the house". Tumbles SD 29 is on an approximate 8-week issue cycle but the latest is that she and her bf decided not to use birth control... so... hmmm....she says this (getting pregnant) was unexpected! She did her usual round of phone calls which doesn't usually include me...and most people encouraged her not to keep the baby. As she makes the decision Daddy gets many of a crying phone call.
Yesterday BM sent DH paragraph after paragraph of messages in regards to SD. She was asking DH for insight on some issues she has noticed and asking DH if he has heard of someone that is mentioned in SD's journal. BM was really sick over the weekend so SD's grandma took care of SD over the weekend. Apparently SD was really angry and upset with BM that someone besides BM was taking care of her. This is the second time in 6 months, maybe even less that BM has told DH that SD was really angry with her. Also, that SD is happiest when she is at home and gets upset with any schedule changes
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