Getting ready to go home. Passed the 4th quarter grade reports to husband. All F's for her online classes. Still no drivers permit.

Husband mentioned she and toxic troll would be 'working" on the grade situation (shes not doing the work...how else can you "work" on that?)

Im focusing on NOT talking about anything to do with Powersulk SD17. In 1 month shes 18.

I will have boundaries in place after May ends, but doubt she will live with us.

From the conversations about adult offspring continuing to live at home beyond the required obligation.... has got me thinking

Under What circumstances would I allow it?

Most likely never

but I did think to myself I would allow ailing parents to stay ... (maybe adult offspring but rather they not impose) especially if I had a guest house or house so large I never saw or heard them 

I would still charge them rent (and make them earn their keep) although I'd give the elderly on fixed income a break. 

Has anyone read the story about Minnesota state senator Nicole Mitchell.. arrested for breaking into her stepmother;'s house?

She claimed she was just trying to recover some of her dad's things.. and his ashes.. because the step mom stopped taking her calls.. so that's how she decided to resolve it.

Look.. that was your dad's wife.. Assuming he had a long loving relationship with his wife.. why are YOU entitled to the ashes.. he would have left anything he wanted you to have in the will... I wonder if she was an absentee daughter.. until she wanted things.

Tell me if I'm in the wrong here...

I get home from work yesterday afternoon. I walk in and see a pile of backpacks at the bottoms of the stairs. SD is home with 3 friends up in her rooms. Girls, but still. DH is no where to be found. He is at work. 

I called him. No answer. 

Another discovery related to Auntie's passing two years ago.

We all loved her. DH suggested that the family (which doesn't include me, remember) establish a memorial of some sort. Great idea, oh Yes, Daddy. We want everybody to always remember Auntie. Please Daddy. We'll support it and help. (All lies. Waste of breath.)

is my husband's memorial service. He died in late February, just shy of his 76th birthday, after a horrific six month fight with a cancer recurrence. His doctor was certain the surgery he recommended would buy him a few more years. But what could go wrong, did go wrong. And it accelerated everything. We had been together for 22 years, married for almost 18.

My 50 year old SD was found dead in her apartment this morning, evidently from a fentanyl overdose. Such a tragic waste of a life. My husband is distraught,  thinking he should have tried more, done something different. When you have addicts in your life you always keep that one little ember alive, hoping it will work out. I know I did with my mom. I am just glad she can finally find peace. As much drama, crises and pain she caused in our lives, she made her own even more miserable. Such a sad and heartbreaking life and death.

I think we've turned a page in dealing with step drama.

This is a momentous occasion I never saw coming. DH has been in the midst of being stripped of even more time due to sports this Summer after he already agreed to losing two weeks for the ever important school version of the sport.

A week later he gets hit with a request for an additional week for the travel version try outs that have no make up time.

Am I being unreasonable because I don't want to let my SS live with us full time after he graduates high school?  When my SO moved in with me and my son, we made the spare bedroom into a place for SS for when he was with us (we have him every other week).  I have an adult daughter and other close family members come to visit every once in a while and we have always worked it out that they came when SS was at his BM or traded weeks with her so that we could accommate everyone.  This was mostly because my kids' father has passed away, so my house is it.  Now BM informed SO that she will be mo

SS13 really struggles with managing disappointment. He cries. Or at least turns red, stone-faced and wells up.

For example, we generally all watch TV in the evening. We get some streaming services for free through our cell provider and then will rotate through other paid ones. When we've watched everything we want to watch, we'll drop it and pick up another one. That way we're not paying for a dozen channels we're not watching.