SS13 finally left on Monday to return back to BMLand after 4 weeks straight of visitation. As previously posted, SS escalated things, texting BM and GF, talking trash about me and DD3. He then texted them again a few days later, claiming that in that moment, I kept looking over his shoulder to try to see his phone password and attempt to read his messages, despite the fact that I was in a work Teams meeting in another room for the afternoon.

Jumping off of Yesterdays' post about her DH continuing to talk about the skid college tuition/plans at home when Yesterdays and her DH have already discussed the situation several times. I think there is a point when we stop responding. Especially if our prior responses are not fully "heard" and we are getting frustrated. 

I doubt there is anyone left here that would remember me, but I wanted to come and try and give you all some hope.  

Years ago when I first joined STalk, I wasn't sure if DH and I were going to make it through the constant Skid/BM drama. Trust me it wasn't easy, but im here to say now that skids are adults, life is so much better!  

Backstory: SD15 lives with us the majority of the time. Technically it's 50/50, but BM moved to a different town in 2020 & DH never got the CO updated. SD attended the high school in our neighborhood and would see BM on the weekends only (and sometimes not even every weekend). No child support on either side. Something else DH never got updated. 

Fast forward: DH has been having his fair share of issues with SD over the last couple of years, but REALLY ramped up recently. Accusing me of stealing, calling DH a deadbeat, taking alcohol, sneaking out at night, etc. 

My son and his wife and middle schooler are visiting with us for two weeks.  I will admit it is chaotic at times because my youngest daughter and her husband are also here.  My DH has been doing nothing but complaining in my ear.  If I had a moment to myself I would have a good cry.  I told him that my grandson is a kid and doing "kid" stuff.  Example he filled the cup holder of the folding chair with pebbles, DH folded the chair and put it in the van and the pebbles went everywhere.  For me, no big deal but a very big deal for DH.  Then I asked GS to get the dive rings out of the pool.

Last year, out-of-the-blue, Step-diablas (26&28) started to "drop in" for extended-stay visits with DH and I. These visits lasted anywhere from 1-3 weeks at a time. They came and went, on and off, for nearly a year. Upon her 1st arrival, YSD made a passive aggressive, snotty demand to DH that I should prepare her special meals.

I may be a little late to the party with blogging these days, but wanted to weigh in on my experience or lack thereof of the stepgrand experience. 

I've been seeing a lot of social media and TV shows on estrangement between parents and adult children. The last statistic I heard was one in four adult children have chosen to go no contact with their parent/s. I've seen arguments from both sides ranging from the "missing reasons," where there's a narcissistic parent who acts innocent and like they are totally shocked over having been ghosted despite being told umpteen times the reasons, to parents claiming they are the ones who distanced themselves. It's like a giant he said she said issue.

I am so tired, and my self-worth is decreasing by the day. Is it even worth sticking around anymore and just go back to my old life which was nothing but stress, unfulfillment and boring.  

SD has been here almost 2 weeks already! Really don't have anything to complain about so far and SD has been home with me during the work weeks until camp starts Monday. I am looking forward to camp starting, but I feel like I would feel that way even with DD because it is just distracting and more on me to balance while I'm working my full time job remotely. Smallest complaint I would have is SD just definitely lacks urgency, but that just means we have to adjust to make sure we give her ample warning before we are leaving the house and/or if we need to do something quickly.