So with previous advice on this site, I have taken SD11, SS13 and BM out of my head. I deactivated any social platforms they are on and blocked both SD and BM on my Snapchat. Not that I use it much. 
 

Then I spoke with DH and we are in a bit of a fork in the road situation. Long story short - we are moving!! 
I am so excited as we will be moving 7 hours away from BM for DH work. This means no more FIFO! My DH can come home to me and our 3 babies every night now. 

Thursday SD18 had a pinning ceremony at her school because she will be graduating with her CNA. She is going to college for nursing so she has this little step up already. 

SD told us BM will be attending… whatever we don’t care. I assumed her mom would be attended with her for back up. 

We really haven’t seen her since SS20s high school graduation in 2022. We saw her last year, but she sat far away in a corner as she only attended one of SDs lacrosse games last year. 

I said to SO I wouldn’t be surprised if her or her lunatic mother say something to him.... 

I realize the following is probably just everyday, typical BS in step-hell but it still feels outrageous. 

So here is what happened: DH and I were having a chat about how far we've come (nearly 20 years together) and where we are now and so on and so forth, when out of the blue, he tells me that last year OSD28 asked him to spend 4 weeks with her traveling, just the two of them, OVER CHRISTMAS. He said he turned her down, for obvious reasons. The audacity of these SDiablas has no bounds.

I realize child support is somethign the courts deem necessary. We have a 50/50 situtation, BM works at a restaurant and has claimed minimal income (tips not being tracked) and we know she receives support from her parents in general. The first time child support was establishe, luckily the magistrate saw through her, and told her a woman with her education and age should be able to find a full time job making at least $20 an hour, and was going to assign her that amount as her income. That was a huge win for us, becaue she brough a W2 sayign she only makes 20K a year.

SD's 28&26 are still traveling outside of the USA although OSD has split off and gone her own way and left YSD on her own. I completely thought YSD would crash and burn immediately, so I have been pleasantly surprised that as far as I know, she is getting by on her own. After months of ongoing, unannounced SD "pop-ins," these past few months have been pure bliss. NO SD drama. For those of you wondering, "Is this step-hell all worth it?" THIS is the time one waits for. 

aka - word from pasty face Clove:

SO its been a while. Last Monday a bomb was dropped on me (or so I thought...stick around it gets tricky or funny depending) about a previous friend who was planning on filing a restraining order and law suits against Husband.

Never happened, and he finally came clean to me Wednesday morning after calling from his friends house at 4:30 am.

I have been with my 2nd wife for 28 years and have been married for 25 of those years. During this time, I have been the sole provider for my 3 SD's and our son, with the SD's father choosing to be absent and not contribute to his children's upbringing. He would pop in and out of their lives at his leisure and would expect us to drop everything so he could spend time with 'his girls' and never once provided financial support for any of his children. To be honest, I think he was grateful for someone taking them off his hands so he could continue to live a party-style life with no ties.

I feel about 100% sure another poster already made this the subject line  a topic so I don't remember exactly who created the created the blog so I'll give credit where it's due to whoever it was.

Wellll, I just had the experience of SD13 hearing her father and I having sex. He had a text message immediately afterwards and she was asking to go to her mom's because "she doesn't know what we are doing up here". The truth? Having sex. What he said "watching videos and playing with the dogs".  I'm cracking up in a way, because I did't think it was a good idea to be honest at this time and that story was a reach. (HCBM, manipulative SD who plays parents against each other ).

SS13 arrives tomorrow for 4 consecutive weeks (the longest time we have EVER had with him in his entire 13 years). It's sad it took us this long to reach this point, but we are thankful that it finally happened. I have been extra nervous about SS coming, especially for this long, since he has been struggling at BMs. It's like Jekyll and Hyde; you never know what SS you're going to get. We spoke to SS a few times over the last week and he is SO EXCITED to visit (and we think to finally have a break from the constant extracurriculars BM has him in).