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Submitted by Cdngirl on Fri, 11/30/2012 - 4:53pm

When SD13 came to live with us at 8, she had a habit of calling us sick from school. Her usual complaint was headache or stomache ache. Anyways I put a stop to that because, she wasn't sick and I was expected to miss work because I would still get paid and DH wouldn't if he missed work. Anyways for the last couple of years she didn't miss a single day of school and if she did, it was because we could actually see she was sick. Fast forward to this year. She is in grad 8 and has now missed 4 to 5 days of school because she is "sick".

But my mom doesn't have any money

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Submitted by Cdngirl on Mon, 08/29/2011 - 1:40pm

This is a constant comment whenever SD12 wants something and I tell her go ask her mom.
SD lives with us full time and maybe sees her mom once every 2 months even though she lives in the same city. BM does not give us child support or even offer to get her daughter anything. Lately I have had enough of using my own money to support SD. I was talking with my DH about when we get the custody papers redone, that we need to request child support.. DH said that she wouldn't pay so why bother asking. I want it done for the principle if nothing else.

Some things got me thinking

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Submitted by Cdngirl on Wed, 03/23/2011 - 5:02pm

I am a full time SM with no children of my own and not able to have any (thanks to a stupid DH when married to EX). Anyways when DH and I first started dating he had EOW visit and some school holidays, things were great. He was attentive to his daughter and we did things as a family.
Now fast forward a few years. DH and I get married and about 10mos after that SD moves in with us at the age of 9. Things are okay I am given full permission to treat SD like she is mine and we all fall into place. So you might as what is the problem.

SD placed me first and BM wasn't even mentioned.

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Submitted by Cdngirl on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 11:34am

Okay so SD11 had a school assignment she had to have 4 examples of "People who give me life". It is a list of people who teach you things such as intellect, spirituality, emotional control, etc. So here list was as follows:
1. SM - gives me intellect because she helps me with my work
2. God - teaches spritituality
3. Dad - teaches me to be calm when I am upset
4. Friends and family --

To baptize or not

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Submitted by Cdngirl on Fri, 10/08/2010 - 3:22pm

Okay a bit of background. First my DH does not believe in organized religion, in fact he would be classified as an agnostic. I myself have some religious beliefs, but I am still searching. Anyways BM has recently become Catholic. Her latest BF/Fiance (whatever he is) comes from a somewhat practising Catholic family and they convinced her to convert. When married to my DH the ex did not show any sign of a religious tendancy. Plus my DH has always made it very clear how he feels about organized religion.

Are you serious?

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Submitted by Cdngirl on Tue, 10/05/2010 - 1:58pm

Okay so this past weekend DH went away and SD spent it with her BM. Yes, it was heaven. Anyways Sunday comes around and I pick up SD from her BM. Once we are home I notice that SD who is 11 has on a rather adult bra. It was riding up and showing through her shirt. I asked her to please take it off and give it to me. SD's BM bought her a padded A-cup bra. SD who is 11 is just starting to develop.

Open mouth and insert foot.

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Submitted by Cdngirl on Wed, 09/08/2010 - 2:21pm

So this labour day weekend was great, no SD and nothing to do but relax. So since DH and I were going out of town for the day (was suppose to be for the night), we put our (my) dog in a kennel. It was only suppose to be for the night, but because they are not open on stat holidays, it was for a couple of nights. Anyways on Monday DH and I were sitting on the couch watching t.v. when I made the comment that something didn't feel right, something was missing. I of course was talking about my dog.

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