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Submitted by Cdngirl on Fri, 11/30/2012 - 4:53pm

When SD13 came to live with us at 8, she had a habit of calling us sick from school. Her usual complaint was headache or stomache ache. Anyways I put a stop to that because, she wasn't sick and I was expected to miss work because I would still get paid and DH wouldn't if he missed work. Anyways for the last couple of years she didn't miss a single day of school and if she did, it was because we could actually see she was sick. Fast forward to this year. She is in grad 8 and has now missed 4 to 5 days of school because she is "sick". She will no longer call me because she knows that she has to be vomiting at school and the teacher better be calling to make sure she is sick. So now she is calling DH and he is saying yeah just come home, because she is taking public transit so no one has to leave work. So for the last two days she goes to school in the morning feeling fine and by the afternoon is coming home with her dad's permission. All I can say is there goes all the hard work down the drain to get her to not fake sick from school. AUGH I am so mad at him for this.

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Submitted by Clearly An Upgrade on Fri, 11/30/2012 - 5:25pm

I did the same thing in eighth grade because of extreme bullying. Not saying this is the reason why your SD is doing it, but if she wasn't attempting to get out of school before, and is now trying to avoid it, there could be a reason.

If there is NO reason for her absences, your DH better get on the same page, and QUICK!! This will only escalate when she goes into HS. It was during her freshman year that my SD stopped asking to come home, and just started skipping class.

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Sat, 12/01/2012 - 1:13pm

My SD used to randomly do this. 8th grade she was calling once a week to come home. I refused to go pick her up because it was all a lie. I fell for it at first. Then on the way home she would ask to stop at Panera or McDonalds. After two times I caught on and when the nurse would call I would tell her I was at work with DH and could not leave. SD then stopped going to the nurse and would text me and ask if I was home and if she could go to the nurse and get dismissed. I always ignored those texts!! She even went so far as to tell me that while she is at school I should be home just in case she needs to come home early! Ok sure.

She never called DH because she knew he couldn't leave work. She knows I won't come so she has stopped trying. Now she is in 10th grade and if I see the school calling I send it right to voicemail! Nothing so far this year.

Luckily DH always agreed with me to leave her at school because there is a 100 percent chance she is NOT sick!