So after several increasingly miserable weekends with SD, last night I finally initiated what I hoped would be a calm, constructive conversation about how SO and I could improve the situation.

I brought up some behaviors and examples of how SD6 has been acting like she doesn’t like me and is disrespectful to me. I asked if we could find a way to get to the bottom of this and maybe fix it. Since she did seem to like me previously, I thought maybe some event or misunderstanding happened that caused the change.

What did he take out of it? “I know, I know- you hate SD!”

AHHHH. What's making me the most angry right now is that I let that little snot nosed bully infuriate me. If he were my BioS I would look at him and laugh and say get over yourself, take your flippin $246 medicine and stop being nasty. But no, I let him make me angrier and angrier.

To tell the truth, I think its flat out stupid to refer to a person as your "half brother" or "half sister"..It doesn't matter if you have the same mom and different dads or the same dad and different moms. You're siblings and should always be referred to as that. I wish people would stop this half stuff. All its doing is separating the kids and making them inferior to one another. As parents we must inform our kids that they're siblings no matter what. They are full siblings at that. This transition from using this term starts with us and we need to put it in full effect.

We're trying this new thing where FDH waits until FSD3 is settled in bed before calling me at night to talk. Seems he hasn't gotten the hang of it quite yet.

So when my SD 16 at the time was living with us, she had chores. She had to clean the kitchen, do the dishes, watch her youngest brother, clean the bathroom, and do her own laundry.
If her chores weren't done, she couldn't go with her friends till they were done. Dad's rules, not mine.

Ugh! I hate when you bring up an issue that affects the entire family but DH is unwilling to compromise or come up with a solution (granted only solution he has it to let SD continue with her negative behaviors and that I just have to deal with it). When I bring up that I continue to be upset about it since I feel I have to just "swallow it all" then he uses, "well don't make me choose, you know I will choose my daughter." Ya, I know dumba$$ and I never said that...........somehow that is all he hears.

My parents told my DH that they don't see him being a dad to his stepsons (soon to be his adoptive sons). Here is the story my dad usually take my BS10,9 to Lowe's for the build and grow but two weekends ago my DH and I went with my BS10,9 DD5mos and SS4 then the next weekend came for the build and grow I took my BS10,9 DD5MOS and DH stayed home asleep (he works nights) but on Friday my DH was off just stayed up all night and slept in. My mom was pissed because she sees it as he goes when we have SS4 and does not go when we don't have him.

I know this is a such a rhetorical question and I totally know why they let themselves be sucked in by their lying, cheating skids but why oh why can't they just no to them when they are being taken advantage of? I know this will cause alot of comments but I just had to vent for a minute.

IM new here. I've been with my bf,my son's father for almost. 4 years. our baby is 10 months.he has 2 sons by a complete idiot. i didn't know what i was getting into being a stepmom. it sucks!!!!! plus their birth mother does nothing for her kids emotionally or financially. i feel so overwhelmed. i feel like no one understands what i go thru. i hope joining this site will give me some guidance and hopefully i can connect with other stepmoms who feel like the wicked stepmother.

So my DH and I are working on getting our house ready to sell so that we can buy a one story closer to my family. A lot of stuff needs done, powerwashing the outside, painting everything, cleaning out the basement that is still full of his grandmothers stuff, and putting new tile in the bathrooms. Needless to say we are going to be busy. So my DH goes outside before work to powerwash the siding on the back of the house(the front is brick) it takes him most of the morning to do and he still has the deck to do.