And one email explodes the silence......

Hello everybody, I have been having alot of issues with my fiance BM for the past 4years now. She just thinks she can do what she wants when she wants. I hate the fact that my fiance has to talk to her at all, because his BM has been the stress of our relationship since day one. I try not to let her bother me but it does. My fiance BM text last night at 10:30pm saying what was your friend name that introduced us.She already knew the answer because it's her husband name. I text her back and said if it's not about your child together then you don't need to be text ing.

my husband and i just had a fight again over his 20 year old son that does not live with us. his son jake has been to juvenile prison and recently jailed again fo violating his op for beating up his girlfriend. last night jake came to the door wanting to stay the night. we have small children in the home. my husband sent his to his grandmas house. i was in bed,didntknow but heard loud talking last night.

BEFORE YOU READ ANY OF THIS PLEASE BE AWARE THAT THIS IS A REAL WORLD SITUATION.....so if it seems a tad bit crazy at times then maybe you should find a little lighter reading............

SO, I really do NOT want to be petty but it has been increasingly hard to avoid it. I spoke to DH last night and he informed that he did in fact speak to SD about the incident at the tennis courts and now I am even more upset be was so dismissive when I decided to take the adult approach and talk to her. I really do NOT want to go down to a child's level and say "well you know what SD, today i don't want to play with you!" I don't think that is productive, it's just plain mean! But I don't know how else to get thru to her. This is NOT the first time she does something like this.

We are leaving on vacation in just a few hours - after I get off work. I like the house to be clean so there's no mess waiting for us when we get home. DH told me not to worry, he would do the last few things while I work. I work from home but it's very hard to get anything done.

I grew up in a very respectful home. Children are to address adults as Mr or Mrs/Ms. So it drives me nuts that DH finds it ok that SD6/3 call adults by their first names- not myself but other adults. He puts children just about the same level as adults and I think that's crazy. I explained as teachers are addressed as Mr or Mrs because it's a sign of respect, it should be continued. Am I just too old school? I won't allow the girls to address my friends in such a casual way. Regardless, dh says well we can start that rule with our baby but my kids don't need to follow that rule.

Sorry for blog hogging. First blog was just a mini vent regarding fskids BM. This blog I need you ladies help with.

For those who don't know the history, I recently became the guardian for a 13 almost 14 yo girl. Her parents died in a car wreck and their wills named me to care for her. Me, the woman who had no kids and both maternal and paternal sides of the family were fine with that.

For ease of posting from this point forward in all posts "S" is now DD. That abbreviation seems to mean Darling/ Dear Daughter and that is a good way to describe her.

A little over a month ago BM was adamant that I was to have nothing to do with her kids. Nada, zilch, zip, zero. SO ignored her dictate and informed her what happened in his house was his call. Not hers.

I thought my SD and I were finally getting somewhat used to one another. Yes she still annoys the crap outta me, but I am learning how to live with it and not let it get to me. I think the reason she annoys me so much is because she looks JUST like her BM. Ohh well, I will learn to deal, but I thought we were moving forward. As I have posted before she calls me mom, I am the only SO she knows her BD with. My DH is never home, he works his ass off, and so the person that has always taken care of her has been ME and so she calls me mom.