I spent alot of time yesterday reading over all the blogs here yest thinking to myself, thank god someone other than myself will be burning in hell with me for their feelings. I however didn't see that any one had posted anything related to custody. Well if anybody out ther eis considering it, let me tell you, you might as well begin chewing your self into pieces. I believed that the little **** would be better for me and maybe not so much like her BM if she was around me all the time and my morals would wear off on to her. I AM A DUMBASS!

I just need to get this out.

DH and I started family therapy yesterday, which was advised to do by the court social worker. At first I didn't think we needed to go and that it was just for court, but after getting in there and hearing DH talk as is we have everything under control and things are getting better between us all, Im just like, wait a minute, Is he crazy. Yes I must admit things have been nice since SD11 came back from Xmas vacation but even I can see that there is still a lot of things that we need to work on. I get so tired of DH's positive personality.

but I have been thinking about something lately. A common complaint here is that the ILs are too close to BM.

Having said that, and knowing about a lot of the BMs' actions, I can certainly understand why this would anger so many people. However, I think the ILs may be acting the way they do so they can see their grandkids as much as they can.

As many of you know, my parents divorced when I was young. They were high-school sweethearts. They grew up together. Their families have known and been friends with each other for an eternity.

I have been a single mother to a daughter for most of her life. Her father I divorced over 8 years ago she is currently 16. Her father has no part of her life never has, he currently is living in the woods he is a homeless crack head. I have been involved in a live in relationship with a man that has two kids a daughter 14 and son 8. Of course the two girls get along one minute and they are at each others throat the next, that is normal sister like behavior. My concern is my boyfriend doesn't like my daughter! he barely speaks a word to her or acknowledge's her exist in the house.

We had SD4 yesterday and she was her natural annoying self, but now she has started to do the 'why' thing. She hasn't done this before and I know it is natural for many kids to get to this stage but does it HAVE to be so darn annoying?!? She was watching Barbie Mermaidia and kept asking why to EVERYTHING from why is barbie blonde to why doesn't Bibble talk like Barbie does. Then she wanted DH to read her a book on firsts (plane ride, day of school, siblings etc) and yet again she asked WHY TO EVERYTHING.

Belle's Blog about the Other Woman - whether she be a SM, or just the Other Woman, and the responses to it got me thinking for a bunch of various reasons.

One of the things it led me to though was the art of self-sabotage.

You know... when you do something purposefully destructive to yourself, your life, your psyche, your relationship.... because it is easier or more of a relief to just do it, rather than take the harder road of self-restraint, or discovery, or whatever the case may be.

I don"t know how to start?I have been reading post on this site for a good while I just have never posted here before.Well here is my life! I got married when I was 32 years old just never found my soul mate before then.I first saw her where I worked, she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen!! She had three kidds when we were married,she had two previous marriages,one kid first marriage,two kids secound.After we were married for two years we decided to have one of our own.

question.....I'm seeing this a a common occurrence now after searching online. We had our first child together. BM got pregnant about six months later.

I should check the chineese calendar, as I'm pretty sure that is what this year is.
DH tells me on Monday, Tuesday and this morning, that he will not be able to come home this weekend. He is suppose to have his children this weekend, and his mom's 60th b'day party is on Saturday, and my mom's 61 party is on Sunday. I tell him fine, work, not much you can do about it. I tell him I will get his kids on Saturday, take them to his mom's party and then take them home. I thought I was being nice.