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After having a kid with DH/BF (baby daddy), did BM go out and have another kid of her own?

Mrs Katch 22's picture

question.....I'm seeing this a a common occurrence now after searching online. We had our first child together. BM got pregnant about six months later.

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stepmom2one's picture

nope. We had a baby (BS3) before we were married. When BS was about 1 yrs old we got engaged, Christmas Eve. BM was engaged on the same night....BM got married 2 yrs ago--so did we. My 2nd child is just 1 month older than BMs baby....so we certainly were on a similar path. But I know that it was not planned that way.

She couldn't care less about us or our family. We don't try to out do one another, we just do our best to deal with one another for SDs sake.

herewegoagain's picture

As soon as crazy witch found out I was pregnant, she did get pregnant...I was told she lost the "twins"...her daughter is less than a year younger than my kiddo...

Snowbunny's picture

Well, DH and I haven't had a baby yet, but DH did break off her 8-year relationship with her husband a month after DH and I got engaged and then took up with a new guy. Her husband was a nice, quiet guy who didn't make much money, and her new guy is a rich divorced doctor (17 years older than her, I might add) who I think she latched on to as a way of "one-up"-ing us. Like the second it became clear that her previously single ex was going to be a happy newlywed she had to jump on something to steal the thunder. Part of me wonders if it was partly because of how much SD likes me and wants to spend time with me and DH, like she wanted to find a new and interesting person to recapture her daughter's attention and affection. It hasn't worked, but the new guy has bought her a new house and new car, so I suppose it's enough to at least maintain the BM's attention!

We're planning on a baby in a year or two, and I'm actually already dreading BM's reaction to it. I have a feeling that she will manage to magically get pregnant right after we do. Only time will tell but if it doesn't happen I will be genuinely surprised.

GeekySM's picture

OHHHH Hell yeah - not even 2 months after BM leaves my now DH she gets knocked up by the man she left him for.

Women do this for a couple of reasons.

1. they want people to accept her choice to leave her hub.
2. they want people to accept her new BF as soon as possible.
3. they want people to accept that the relationship with her now ex hub is over.

Its VERY common - I personally don't know of any that left their now ex hub and DIDN'T get preggers immediately with someone else.

Snowbunny's picture

My DH's ex did the same thing! About 2-3 months after they broke up (SD was only 5 months old at that point) she asked DH out to dinner and he was worried she was going to tell him that she wanted to get back together. Instead he tell him she's knocked up again! DH was floored, but ecstatic that the timeline proved it wasn't his. We know (per her own diary) that BM got pregnant with DH on purpose by lying about being on birth control. We're assuming she got pregnant by this other guy so soon in order to trap him, so he'd be forced to take care of her. DH was no longer giving her a place to live or bring home a paycheck to her, so she had to find a new person to leech off of.

Mrs Katch 22's picture

WAIT.....they went out to dinner together!?!? gasp!! The last time DH and BM were "alone" was when she told him the news that she got in trouble with the law...that was painful. Knowing that I was excluded and that he agreed to see her by himeself....psssh!

Snowbunny's picture

Well yes, but bear in mind that this was nine years ago, which was well before I ever came into the picture and before all of BM's crazy fully came out. He would never now go to dinner with her without me. If for no other reason that you always want to have a witness when BM's around because she's so damn nuts-o that no one would otherwise believe you if you tried to retell the story. Blum 3

Mommyto1Stepto2's picture

Not mine. I had a baby a year ago...BM and her BF did move-in together when I was pregnant though...

stepmom2one's picture

lol!

stepmom008's picture

Thankfully, no. Wilda and Loser Boyfriend are both neutered now.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".