In another post, MorningMia wrote: DH eventually began to see his kids for who and what they are and finally accepted that they would never have the relationships he expected. He said in a sarcastic tone (as if, "big deal"), "She (BM) WON!" lol. 

A Pyrrhic victory is one that is achieved at a great cost, resulting in significant losses for the victor and making the victory unworthy. Our not-so-beloved Crazy BM has a habit of winning Pyrrhic victories.

Friends, 

First off I want to thank YOU. This particular group of stepparents have gotten me through some hard/dark/awful times and the shrewd / excellent advice and stories have helped shape my mind and behaviors to see reality. I was that stepmom that wanted everything for them and really dove in, sacraficed - and finally after SKID adulthood realized I was no better off than any other stepparent and possibly worse off than the ones that chose to do nothing (...if I were to do it all over again, I would do nothing and disengage right away.)

For everyone following my posts , I just want to get an idea of if everyone thinks I should go to this senior night "extravaganza" or stand my ground and not go. Thanks 

This blog is in response to Rocky Road's entry, He Will Never Stop

One severe, never before given, A$$ Beating!

That’s what it takes for some of these delusional Daddies-in-Denial to finally wake up and change.

Only A$$ Beatings...

Because they live by this personal, twisted philosophy: if it’s not happening to me, it’s not relevant. So, they bury their heads in the sand, refusing to deal with the reality right in front of them, pretending it doesn’t exist until it’s too late. You might ask me; how do I know?

Today was the first day of school and as far as I know....SD15 WENT. Because she realized we were not going to let her get her way no matter how big of a temper tantrum she threw. 

You all know that SD does not want SO to walk with hwr in Senior night. I don't know where that stands at this point. But SO gets a text from BM about the senior cheerleaders having a dinner for them and the parents before the game. I have been told by SO I have to go with him.  I told him no. He of course isn't taking no for an answer and has ordered the tickets.  He said I have to do this for him and SD.  What type of abuse is this that he isn't respecting me.  

If you remember my last few blog posts, DH has SS12 for Labor Day Weekend this year. BM and DH communicated about it a few weeks ago and BM made it clear that even though the court order says 3 p.m. pick-up at her house, she was sending SS12 to football practice from 2 p.m. to 3 p.m. since it was "her time." She told DH he was welcome to pick SS up at the football field at 3 p.m. (pulling him out early which was severely frowned upon and would devastate SS) or allow SS to complete the entire practice, picking him up at 4 p.m. DH played the game and agreed to pick up at 4 p.m.

SD told SO that he doesn't have to walk her on the field for senior night. BM and BMs fiancé are doing it. This might be more for bio parents but anyone can chime in. How would you react if you were the parent?

We sadly lost our beautiful little fur princess yesterday.   I took her to have her cysts drained again and the vet was unable to get her to wake up.  She tried to revive her and she was able to bring her back very briefly, but sadly Princess Popcorn's poor little body just wouldn't allow her to stay.  We are devastated, including my husband.  The vet did a necropsy and has never seen anything like it.  There is still uncertainty of what it was.  She did take samples of the liver and the mass.  Hopefully we can get answers at some point.

As the title says, I am keeping my fingers crossed that my DH does not start giving money to my SD33. He is concerned that she does not have food in the house. I am not concerned, as SD and her loser husband (LH), who are total layabouts (says hereiam, sitting on the couch, perusing StepTalk), seem to have money for the unecessary things that they want. So, I don't believe that they are going without food.