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Do we all have to sit together?

SMIT's picture

Hope everybody's doing well and keeping cool in this crazy July-August heat and humidity!

OK, so my adorable SS started tee ball last weekend and there will be games every Saturday until early September. I had to miss the first game because of a business trip. I wasn't surprised to find out that my husband sat with his ex-wife and her older son. He had nobody else there and I don't care that he sat and talked to them. The thing is, when I can go to the games, I don't want to sit with them!!! We've invited my in-laws to games and the last thing I want is for all of us--our fam, the ex-, her son, her parents--to be sitting there together. My husband thinks it would be so great for SS to have us all there and I agree with that... I just don't believe that both sides of SS's family need to be looking like best friends. The child is four years old--he has no idea!

Should I just suck it up and not protest? DH hasn't said anything yet and probably won't. The next game is Saturday and I need to decide whether to say anything before we get there or tell him when we arrive that I don't want to sit with her. I don't want to listen to her yammer on or have her mother talk to my husband like she loves him to death (and ignores me... the woman is snooty... or maybe nervous around me? I don't know.). I want to enjoy our little guy's game with my husband. What would y'all do?

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lylagarrett's picture

I know exactly how you feel. Back in the day when my SS played ball no matter how hard I tried not to have to sit by the ex and her family it never failed they would sit beside us. We would show up early and pick our place to sit and low and behold who sits right next to us. We would show up after they got there and would sit somewhere else and they would move by us. It was infuriating to say the least and at one game the exes mother even spit on me! I don't have any words of wisdom for you because no matter what you do they are going to do whatever they want. Just wanted you to know you're not alone!

SMIT's picture

Don't you know that her perfect daughter had absolultely nothing to do with the demise of your husband's first marriage and it's entirely your fault that he's happy now?! Wink

Wow, I can't believe she did that to you. What did your husband say???

lovin-life's picture

Do you sit in bleachers or take your own camp/lawn chairs? Surround yourself with the other parents who also bring lawn chairs. There are 1 or 2 parents that absolutely know everything and critisize every play/child/coaching move.......etc.that we deal with in ball. We've become very good at dodging them over the years!! The bring your own seat thing..helps..you can sit where they can't fit..if you plan it right! lol One of them hung out in the dug-out before the game for a bit last night....sometimes they are persistant!

heathermw's picture

i have the same issue with any events. Whether it is baseball, basketball, football, and school concert, anything; she ALWAYS needs to sit by me. The only time she does not sit by me is when I arrive after her or there are no spots. We sit in lawn chairs on the sidelines, sometimes by husband is caoching, but always. I have even had MY parents attend games and her and her parents still sit by me. Although, sometimes her mother complains about where I have chosen to sit...I swear one of these times when she complains about that, I am goin gto tell her what she can do with her opinion:)lol Now the ex wife has a new boyfriend and he comes to some events and then we are all there, like one big happy, disfunctional family:)

ssas's picture

I was at a elementary school concert and not only did we have to sit with her & her mother but she (the X) spent the whole thing giggling and whispering to my BF. He claims it is better for the boys -- but it's been 3 years since they divorced - she left him - married two wks after thier divorce was final. What am I supposed to do?

lovin-life's picture

Sit between them next time......
And Out-Whisper, Out-giggle, Out-flirt her!!

And if your in a particularly spiteful mood.....Wear something low-cut so every time they lean over to 'talk' he is 'distracted' by you. She'll LOVE THAT!!!!!!!! mmmmmmmwwwaaaha ha aha ha

Sorry...I'm in a bit of a mood today!!! lol Smile