If she's such a "good Christian," why is she lying to our kid?
BM's “great wisdom” has struck again. I’m a practicing Catholic and my 3 YO son is being raised Catholic. That includes saying a traditional prayer before meals. Last night after the little one and 9YO SS prayed before dinner, SS asked me, “Are you a Christian?” I said, “Yep, Catholics were the first Christians.” He said, “Oh, because my mom said I shouldn’t do this (made the Sign of the Cross) because you pray to Jesus and to some lady who was Jesus’ wife or sister or something.”
I tried to give him a simple explanation of why Catholics believe Mary is so special (since she was Jesus’ mother) and that we DO NOT worship her. I understand that I heard all of this from a 9 YO who often confuses things, but it p*ssed me off. First I was really hot and then I realized BM just doesn’t know the facts about it. Then I got mad again because I would NEVER say anything about her church/faith tradition because I don’t know anything about it. She belongs to a mega church that I’ve attended maybe twice for special occasions. She talks all the time about how active she is at her church and says she can't do certain things because, "My Christian side just won't let me."
I want the opportunity to calmly and in a non-confrontational way ask her what she really said to SS, but I doubt I’ll get it. DH said if anything else like this comes up, then absolutely. I just freakin’ hate keeping my mouth shut all the time to keep the peace. It’s all I’ve done for seven years.
We say two prayers before meals—one SS learned when he was little and “Bless us, o Lord…” All four of us say those prayers together. I explained to SS that it’s just how our family does it at our house and DH told SS that he’s not being forced to do anything. I hope I get to find out what BM really said to him. If she’s truly anti-Catholic, that really goes against her “I’m such an awesome Christian” line. Ugh…
Before anybody gets up in arms and says I’m being unfair to anyone who’s not Catholic, please understand that I’ve had bad experiences before with conservative fundamentalist Christians. I’ve had people get in my face and point fingers at me and tell me what they “know for a fact” is wrong about Catholicism. It bums me out because I’d never do that to someone else.
Has anybody else dealt with this kind of thing?