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sd13 mad at bm, trying to win me over, not playing into her head games

dispiritedstepmom2011's picture

so sd is mad at bm cause bm promised her christmas money this month and nis now backing out of it. bm is doing this because she is mad at sd cause sd told us bm came to the house recently when i wasnt home and took food (sd let her in). sd also told us bm bought her cigarettes and swisher-sweets blunt cigars. also bm, sd, and dopey broke into our home at some point by pulling up sd's window and snapping it at the hinges. dopey and bm blamed sd, but there is no way sd could have done it (not strong enough). dopey admitted to doing it.

so lately sd has been soooo nice to me, asking me to watch movies, asking me if she can come to the store with me and bd5, trying to have convos with me, telling me about her friends, ect. i am NOT an idiot...i know she is playing head games and doing this cause she is mad at bm.

bf agrees but disagrees. he sees the pattern; sd mad at bm, dispirited good....sd mad at me, bm good. he thinks its rediculous but also says that sd probably sees that i am always here and havent done her wrong but it takes a fight with bm to see it (and HOW many times over the last 7yrs does this happen? millions. its so rediculous). he is upset with me a little for not feeding into it and giving sd the attention she is seeking from me.

um, what about when i tried giving her attention and she ignored me, snubbed me, and treated me like shit? im suppossed to be like "oh yea! she is mad at bm now she likes me!!!! yea happy dance!"

i dnt think so.

dispiritedstepmom2011's picture

i know, i have done this before with her but in the past i have gone gaga over her liking me over bm...but not no more! my heart cant take it and quite frankly i find it repulsive how she plays with peoples hearts and minds....lil manipulator like her mother.

i havent been nasty to her, i have been civil but unless i was already in the movie mood i wont watch one with her.

regmom's picture

kids can change anytime treat her like a kid but as for bm dont tolerate any nonsense. SD may even not like ypu tomorrow but when she does show her what she is missing, she jusr dislikes the fact that you are with her dad but besides that some of the bad influence may come from mom and friends.